• HalfSalesman@lemmy.world
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    I’ve never sent a dick pic and I don’t know if my anxiety/insecurity would allow me to send one even if it was requested.

    I can’t fathom just sending one to a stranger without being asked for it.

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      I’ve gotten some on Discord. Men don’t send unsolicited dick pics to show off, they show them to harass. I only get them from people I’m not paying attention to. Like if someone messages me and I stop messaging back that’s typically when I get them. You can’t fathom doing it because you’re (hopefully lol) not someone who would sexually harass people. They don’t feel shame for doing it. To them, getting any sort of reaction to it is the goal. Telling them “you’re disgusting” would be giving them attention and something they want.

      PSA: When you get unsolicited dick pics, block and report. Don’t respond. Don’t reward their behavior. If you’d like to go on some crusade to tell their mother (I’ve seen some people do that lol) that’s another topic, but never reply to them directly by saying anything.

      It sounds like my experience is a little different from this woman’s though, I typically get them after I stop answering. I haven’t ever gotten one in the first message. But the “uh, hello??” part tracks with what I’ve seen. It’s attention seeking behavior.

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      Me neither I did it once after she pretty much threatened to strangle me if I didn’t. 🤣 And yes we still have contact to this day.

      But I will never send one unsolicited, it’s so fucking weird, it’s the same as the flashers in the park, what 30 years ago, dumb fucks with no common sense or decency.

      And it is so useless, I mean the woman that would like it I wouldn’t like, and the woman I would like will hate it. So there is nothing to gain unless you have a really low bar.

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    I took a picture of a sparrow once. They’re called Spatz in German. In my local dialect, they’re called “Spotz” ʃpɔts in english it’s pronounced like “shpowts” - which is one of the words used for penis as well. Picture in German is Bild and in the local dialect it’s “büdl” ˈbʏdl in English pronounced like “boodle” (you have no pronunciation for ü).

    So in my local dialect, a sparrow-pic is pronounced the same as a dick-pick. Spotzbüdl - ʃpɔtsˈbʏdl - spowthsboodle

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      We kind of do have a pronunciation of ü The cornish town Bude, would be pronounced by locals as “Büd” It’s how I explained to my kids how to handle umlaut words, if it was the English word “lane“ imagine it’s spelled ‘laen’ and then get rid of the e to make ‘län’. It’s rare but some English words still use æ as a sound not a pair of letters. Spelæological for caving for instance. Often simplified to speleological.

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        I feel like it’s easier to tell English speakers to make an “eee” sound with their lips and then pronounce the vowel in question (ä, ö, ü) with the rest of their mouth (at least that’s how we do it when we sing in German, I know choral German doesn’t always line up with proper German pronunciation).

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    This felt like hearing one of those hardcore grannies dropping a truth bomb on their spoilt grandchild in public, and all people in a 10m radius shut up and start thinking if it also applies to them.

    Doesn’t happen often, but Balkan grannies are like Speed Metal when they hit.

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    Why don’t you please tell us how you really feel?
    The burn is so hot, it’s gonna cost several thousand in ER fees.

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      I don’t agree. To me, it helps to emphasize the ridiculousness of coming in swinging with a dick pic instead of starting an actual human conversation and acknowledging that the person you’re talking to deserves respect and has more going on than a hole for you to stick something in.

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        That goes without saying. But to be clear, we don’t know the dick pick timing. Also I think that regardless of the vulgarity and the obvious stupidity of sending your meat to a person who didn’t ask for it, there is something positive to be found in any expression of desire towards oneself no matter how crude and idiotic.

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      Yeah, this seems like an excuse to brag more than anything. Men are gross, but all the extra made me think that dick picks weren’t the point of this post.

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        I met girls on tinder who told me how they always get dick picks, and i’m pretty sure most of them is to make them seem more interesting or for attention. I know that sounds like victim blaming, but i asked more than one girl how you send pictures on tinder and they just deleted me or made some things up on how you send pictures.

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        Oh for sure hahah she’s like look at me I’m smart successful AND I get dicks I’m not a dry PhD bitch

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    Umm technically by ignoring them she is the opposite of a slut. Just saying.

    Not that there’s anything wrong with sluts. I’m very slutty myself.

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      Most women learn from a very young age that the real definition of slut is 1) you used to have sex with me and not longer do so you’re a slut; 2) I want to have sex with you but you don’t notice me therefore you’re a slut; and 3) my boyfriend, husband, guy I like thinks you’re hot so you’re a slut. Doesn’t have anything to do with what sex the “slut” may or may not be having. Many women were labelled sluts while they were still virgins.

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          slut isn’t a slur lol Otherwise, neither of us would be casually dropping it without fear of social repercussion.

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              I will concede and do some research.

              For whatever reason I was under the impression that a word had to reference a specific group to be a slur. Like, anyone can be a slut. Man, woman, trans, black, white, et cetera. Like, who is “slut” targeting? Sexually active people? I know that it is weaponized against women, usually those who are NOT actively engaging in promiscuous activities, but I haven’t exactly come across many slurs that can be used against multiple groups.

              Perhaps the root of my understanding of what makes a slur itself is the issue. Like I said I’m going to do some research. As a known slut, I apologize to any who came across my comment and were offended.

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              Fair, and yes, though we tend to censor ourselves when referencing known slurs in this day and age. You won’t find me casually dropping Ns or old cigs while talking about those slurs, and I doubt you would either.

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        I guess it would make sense to counter that slur with a counter-slur.

        I.e., when somebody calls you a slut, respond by calling them a “needy one” or sth. Might hit a spot.

        where the “need” is the need to be an asshole, i mean

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      Sure but that doesnt matter. The point is making insults they thing will hurt or humiliate you, because they feel humiliated. People do that by insulting presumed insecurities.

      Women get called fat ugly sluts, men get called small dicked virgin losers. We’re just calling each other failures at our gender roles.

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      I’m very slutty myself.

      I hope you’re prepared for the flood of dik piks you’re about to receive from the unwashed masses

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        OPs got plenty of their own dick pics on their profile.

        I salute you ExhibiCat, fellow uncut person 🫡

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          Yeah I didn’t want to mention that because I don’t like to share them nonconsensually. I also mark them as NSFW of course. At the instance I post them they’re welcomed. But yes my username checks out. 🤭

          I’m in Europe, circumcision is very rare here.

          I probably should make a separate account though to post SFW. Thanks for the reminder

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        Well I’m a guy. Heteroflexible and pretty open though so I don’t mind dick pics.

        In fact the instance I’m on is full of them :)

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    I can’t understand the reasoning behind it. Do they think women like that? What’s the success rate? Are women just scrolling when all of a sudden they see a dick pic and are like “wtf I’m so horny now”.

    Or they just think if they see tits it makes them horny so women MUST be the same way? If so I feel like it’s been well established that isn’t the case…

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      It’s probably a mix of throwing shit at the fan, power dynamics, the thrill of the taboo and probably a little bit of a humiliation fetish. It’s never about the receiver. It’s an aggressive act.

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      A picture is worth a thousand words

      “Hi I am…I am looking for sex”

      If you are using a dating website and actually trying. You’d look at a profile, read their bio, and then send a message that had something to do with their bio. (Could also comment on pictures)

      But it is a numbers game to an extent and most messages sent will never see a reply.

      So what is the least effort highest reward thing to send first? Private picture.

      They are hoping that the person opens it and it catches their eye.

      If their first thought is to send a private picture, they are not really looking for small talk. So it has the added bonus of weeding out non-sexual people.

      It’s no risk, high reward

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      Or they just think if they see tits it makes them horny so women MUST be the same way?

      This one. The problem is that by the time 90% of the hetro cis male population of one generation has figured this out, a new generation of teen hetro cis males are right behind them. A better sex education class would cover this.

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      I’ve never sent one, because anxiety n stuff. But from talking to the few of my friends that do it works quite often on tinder. They basically treat tinder and and instant hookup app. The flow is basically swipe > wanna hook up here’s what i got? > ok come over.

      My friend says works 100% of the time on fat women and 15% of the time on the rest. Which is enough to always have a few girls to call over at any time.

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        There so much misogyny oozing out of your comment, I think I’ll go disinfect my screen now.

        Hope your friend gets convicted for sending unsolicited explicit content 👍

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      I do like to send noods (recipe is adding salt & herbs to the noodle water, then adding cheese to herb noodles)
      IMG_20250715_110456

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        That’s hot.

        For my spotted dick recipe, I like to let the raisins rehydrate in a bowl of lemon juice. Really gives the flavor a little extra pop of brightness.

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        Damn, those noods are practically naked! Come to think of it, it’s that they are not quite naked that makes them so hot.

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          Add a pinch of oregano and basil as well (maybe even some freshly ground pepper if you’re looking for a zing) and they’re good to eat as-is! Very seriously, tried this once while high, and now it’s the only way I boil any kind of pasta. Nothing can beat that “core” zest you get when the base is well seasoned! And they complement seasoning cheeses really well, makes for a neat snack!

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            I just use the common grocery store herbes de provence mix which at least also uses oregano

            Its really the only way to do noodles after trying it once

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              Ooh, I completely forgot about those mixes, thank you! Most deffo should be even tastier! I kinda’ started mainling basil and oregano since starting to bake pizzas (it is a crime against humanity to not add basil and oregano to a pizza, that is all) and I forgot other seasonings existed:))

              And, yep! Plus they work with absolutely anything that way, and make meal prep a lot faster if you’re in a rush (I would eat a double-portion of what you posted, honest truth!)

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    I still have never received an unsolicited dick pic. I’ve never struggled to get men to like me though… I wonder what it is about me that tells them not to bother with the picture.

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      It’s been 15 minutes since you posted, how many did you receive until now?

      Edit: here’s something even better. A dik dik pic.

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      Wow you are a girl and you’ve next got one? All of my female friends get them constantly.

      What I get a lot is “young girls” saying they’re sooo interested in me. With profiles that were just created. I’m sure they’re actually a hairy guy named Pyotr.

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      over the many years I have been online, I have received 100s of unsolicited dick picks. I am a guy, and straight. meh, just letting me know to block them I guess.

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          Lemmy is the first place I have used this name, so I doubt it. One of the longest use ones, like almost 20 years, had Mr. in it, so I just think its dudes wanting other dudes to see their dick, maybe get one back. that or some sort of scammer/conman.