- You get to keep all your current memories and knowledge.
- Everyone/everything else is a clean slate.
- You’re starting now (not going back to the past).
I would not mention as much of my personal life as I did.
People are going to make decisions based on more than just merit.
It might not be fair, done consciously, or with malice, but it happens.
Yep, the only thing I’ve let slip is that I volunteer at a non profit.
I would do it all over again but I would do the bare minimum. I would do what my job duties entailed in my contract and never give any extra.
Its a bad deal doing extra at an employer expecting a raise or job security. You do the extra to learn the newer/better skill, gain the experience, then take those new skills to a new employer who will pay you more for having it. This is how you move up the ladder in the 21st century.
It’s so sad but this is completely true.
Anywhere that I’ve learned a new skill in hopes of getting a promotion, the response has either been “why did you waste time learning that? That’s not your job.” or more commonly “great initiative! Now we can add that work to your workload without having to pay you a cent more! This is great management because we can have one employee do the job of 1.5, and we didn’t even have to pay to train them! Thanks for that and here’s your extra work! Deadlines and expectations remain the same on your old work of course.”
In a few cases, once that inevitably led to job change, they had the gall to try and shame me with a line like, “You know, that’s a skill you learned under this roof, to do work for this company. While we are professionals here, if we weren’t, this might feel like a betrayal…”
I wouldn’t make it obvious who my work besties are.
- It’s assumed that you’ll gossip with that person, so you won’t get any info that they can’t hear.
- If they’re more than 1 level junior to you, it will take longer to get promotions and raises since you’ll be “junior” by association.
- If they’re the same level and in your team (and they’re a poor performer), you won’t get promoted because it’s assumed you’ll play favorites as their boss.
Sucks. Some of them were not professional and it impacted my optics. I need to pick better friends and set healthier boundaries.
The idea of work friends is a real concern. It only ever works against you, I’ve found. Be friendly with everyone, but don’t become friends.
I would try to believe in myself as much as my employer believed in me. My imposture syndrome for the first couple years was absolutely rank.
Mine is still so bad that my next goal is to move in to a work from home position.
Wfh doesn’t necessarily help with imposter syndrome. I’ve been wfh for a couple years now, and I still feel like I’m just playing an admin rather than having earned my senior position lol
That’s how I feel about working in office lol. I’m busting my ass trying to get more education so I can change position, but my office wants me to be admin forever, and adding that to the feeling like I shouldn’t even be there is pointing me in the WFH direction.
Seeing as I’m self employed, not much. Or maybe everything - could go either way.
I hadn’t considered that perspective!
What’s an example of something you’d change?
I would have refused to participate in that Foosball tournament that a coworker begged me to be in because he needed an even number for teams.
A disaster, seriously.
last time we had a foosball tournament, I was made to play on my own against teams of two.
I think it helped me not being slowed down by someone less capable. I won against the other 4 teams on my own.
I don’t think they will make me play on my own again lol
Letting it bleed so much into life. My job and my hobby (code) have significant overlap. Stuff I learned on the job started making hobby coding not fun and shortcomings at the job started to feel like my own personal failures. I am slowly learning to separate my work and personal identities, to understand that my employer’s stuff is not my own, and to leave work at work when work ends. I wish I had done that from the first day though.
Quit 10 years sooner.
I wouldn’t have befriended my one coworker so I wouldn’t be so upset when they left
Just because they left doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends!
It kind of does when they move across the country
That’s what the internet is for! :)
Idk…they aren’t chronically online like I am. They lead a very busy life and probably didn’t even like me much to begin with.
You’re starting now (not going back to the past).
This makes it a bit more difficult since I designed most of the architecture at my work. It would take a lot of work to be taken seriously again and not have my opinion being discarded because I’m the newcomer.
I would have to prove myself all over again though, not something I’d look forward to.
In that case, if you could keep your reputation would that change your answer?
Hmmm… I’m quite happy with my work and the benefits I get. I guess if I got to restart I would make some more friends in the right places from the beginning. It’s something I learned only later on that it helps to be on good terms with those higher up, in case you need some support with budgets or priorities.
And vice versa, I would also be more careful with not pissing people off. Early on in my job I ruined a few relationships by being a prissy bitch about how things were supposed to be done, instead of being a bit more open minded. Looking back on it I inwardly cringe at how I acted back then. That’s definitely something I would not repeat, I like to think I’ve grown a bit emotionally since :)
Thanks for sharing. That’s pretty insightful and relatable.
Master PowerPoint. People still love their PowerPoint.
Serious question. Is this something that GenAI can help with?
It could help you stay on topic and build good opening and summary slides. A good opening slide helps orient the audience and a good closing side summarizes well. Both help in making sure a decision is reached or the audience is aligned after the presentation.
Thank you!
Maybe. I would need it to follow specific brand guidelines and team requests but at the same time know when to make the creative decision to break rules and dismiss requests. I don’t think the tech is there yet. I have already incorporated other AI tools in my workflow but they have only helped on small and simple tasks.
What I really need is for Microsoft to create a version of PowerPoint that’s meant for designers.
Thanks for clarifying. I honestly didn’t know and this is great insight!
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Stop acting like I’m worthless with low self-esteem. I don’t know why I present myself that way. I’m a valuable competent skilled employee who passes background checks squeaky clean. Someone smack me and tell me to present myself as I deserve.
I even declined the hiring bonus because I felt unworthy of it although I meet all the criteria for it 🤦♀️ But really what I did was tell my managers that I’d rather be given the hiring bonus after I’ve been there a year because I’ve heard that some companies have a stipulation in the contract of hiring bonuses that should anything happen within the first year of my employment that causes me to stop working there, I would have to repay the bonus, so I kept it in mind that if I ever got a job that promised a hiring bonus, I would discuss it with the manager to have the bonus given to me at the end of a year. well I told my managers this and they told me I would have to talk to a higher up manager about it and they told me her name but I forgot, and they didn’t even look me in the eye when they said this and I just kind of never followed up on it.
I hate how being humble and having integrity can translate to being taken advantage of in a toxic relationship.
Can I have your hiring bonus?
No. It’s not even very much. Anyway I guarantee I need it and would appreciate it more than any random internet stranger asking me to hand it over to them.
Ok now im not asking 🔫
I wouldn’t take the job.
People that hired me are not the people running the joint now. And the current people are pretty terrible.
Same here, the manager hiring me left before my employment started. I was a contractor that joined, so I already knew most of the team. Alas, management destroyed the fun in the job. Way to much work, no new knowledged colleagues but we got a truckload of managers to work agile.
Is it possible to have two cell numbers on one phone?
I’d give out my burner number if anyone outside of HR asked for my contact info.
Google voice has been around for like 15 years. It’s your perm number, that your direct calls to your real number as you like/don’t like.
Personally I give out work number that is semi permanent and fam/friends get GV #. I use one message app for work # and one for GV. Allows me to pay attention/prioritize during work/personal time.
Been doing this for more than 12 years. 8 employers, no worries.
This is perfect, thanks!
You must use your Google voice phone number often enough for them not to disable it. I had a Google voice number. Used it infrequently. They disabled it.
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Yep, dual sim is a thing. However, my employer wants full control of the phone so they provided an iPhone. (I’m an Android user) The biggest pro of 2 phones is that you can silence the work phone outside work hours.
With my 1st temp job ('99) I told my boss that the best feature on the work phone the power button was. The moment I left the building it would be turned off. Alas, those modern phones have a complete sequence to go trough to get them off, so I now use the automated do not desturb. Alas, iPhone has only times you can set daily, instead weekday dependent times. Between 18:00 and 7:00 the thing is quiet, no exceptions.
Interesting! Can work track your location via your work phone?
Yep, when they have control overthe phone, yep. This iPhone tells me it’s managed by my organisation so they can do what they want with it, including looking up the location of the device.
Thank you for confirming. If I have to get a work phone in the future, I’ll get a separate device.
Yes. Most modern phones are dual-sim. New Google Pixels, new iPhones, All Xiaomis afaik.
You can give them phone number A and then completely disable that sim out of work hours.
Edit: also you can have “virtual” phone numbers that you just use inside an app on your phone, but they don’t do as much as a normal mobile number so I personally wouldn’t take my chances.
Interesting!!
Do you know if it would it be cheaper to have a second SIM card or a virtual phone number?
Depends where you live. MoreMins lets you buy a virtual phone number for about €4/mo if I remember right, which is wayy cheaper than anything physical you can get anything here in Australia.
Thanks!
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