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    1. Our parents shouldn’t have used other people’s suffering to try to force us to eat, or be greatful.

    2. Our parents shouldn’t have used political crisises, like Rawanda, or famines, or things we wouldn’t comprehend as children. Don’t reference geopolitical crisis and expect your children to understand.

    3. There was something racist in what they were doing - it implied African parents weren’t responsible. When in actual fact the causes of conflict and crisis in Africa are multi-facetted, globalized, and complicated.

    4. Africa is far more well developed in some parts than lots of westerners assume.

    Thank you for reading.

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      It also exploits another person’s tragedy to make it about themselves taking away from the tragedy to focus on them. It’s narcissistic. And it’s reductive of tragedy. If speaking of third world problems should only be to focus on them. Not to take something from them for yourself.

      “You should be grateful”

      If it’s about trite platitudes and gratitude, go make a list. Find another way to teach that. When the topic is about someone else’s tragedy, get out of yourself and pay attention to those around you more.

      “I have to remember so blessed when I think of someone else’s tragedy”

      If you need a boost, Count your blessings against your own gamut of success. No need to compare and push yourself in front of someone else’s gamut all just to feel good about yourself.

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      It’s also being dismissive of real problems people face. It’s an excuse to not address problems here and now because bigger problems exist elsewhere. But you aren’t going to do a goddamn thing about those issues, so this implied triage is a lie. It’s just a way of trying to act morally superior while lacking empathy.

      The whole first world problem concept implies everyone has it easy in first world countries. As though we don’t have poverty, mental health issues, crime, corruption, police brutality, abusive families, disease, loss of loved ones, and so on. There’s no shortage of problems anywhere.

      And you know what, fuck this attitude of turning suffering into competition and mocking people for being bothered by things that aren’t life altering. There’s nothing wrong with a healthy expression of emotion when you are disappointed or irritated, as long as you aren’t taking it out on others. But being a snarky asshole to someone and judging them for having a bad day isn’t helping.

      If you see someone frowning and your instinct is to tear them down rather than cheer them up, maybe you should take a good look at yourself and figure out what your fucking problem is.

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        It’s also being dismissive of real problems people face.

        No, it’s not doing that all! Having your name spelled wrong on a Starbucks cup IS NOT a real problem! You’re fabricating outrage at something that does not exist in the comic. The artist is making fun of the petty nonsense that people complain about. So, it’s not dismissive of real problems because it doesn’t list a single real problem in the comic.

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          You’re fabricating outrage at something that does not exist in the comic

          The comment I was replying to was clearly talking about a pattern of behavior beyond what is in the comic.

          The artist is making fun of the petty nonsense that people complain about.

          Which is a pretty goddamn petty thing to complain about. How dare people express their opinions and dissatisfaction with anything that isn’t the end of the fucking world, right?

          Yes, there are people who blow such things way out of proportion, but this comic does nothing to distinguish between reasonable responses to these issues and unreasonable ones, it just lumps them all together and tells everyone to shut the fuck up in the most condescending way possible.

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      Your points 1 and 4 are valid but the others read too much in “Eat up, in Africa kids are starving”.

      At least my mother never went into detail about why the kids there are starving. She also ignored me saying “well, send it to them then, I don’t want it”.

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      Thanks chatGPT, fyi if you are trying to fool people you should never use the word multifaceted and you should remove the ordered list, only AI care enough about a shit post to use an ordered list.

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            You’re kinda stupid huh? Is that real enough for you?

            1. Oh no, an ordered list someone has written.

            2. Watch out, it contains the world multifacetted.

            3. It must therefore have been created by ChatGPT.

            4. No, you’re just a dumbass, dumbass.

            Get a better grip on reality man. Some people are just more capable than you. Deal with it.

            [EDIT: Struck through things said out of anger.]

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              Honestly I have trouble dealing with the fact that others (like you) are very eloquent, while I am just a babbling buffoon. It is difficult

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                Thanks for the compliment, no biggie, sorry I got angry and called you stupid. It’s understandable to be paranoid about AI.

                One option would have been to make it less of an accusation, and just say “I don’t trust that this isn’t AI. Write a recipe for muffins”… that would make it lighthearted.

                I myself have trouble with reading, reading comprehension, and spelling. Part of how I got to be more articulate was that I used a text-to-speech reading program called “Balabolka” (for Windows 10, other operating systems have their own versions of this). That allowed me to listen to more articles, which made me learn stuff, which made me argue and debunk misinformation online - which made me learn how to better present arguments and convince others.

                So that was my path, but everyone’s got their own. Thanks for being so honest with yourself, and sorry again for how I reacted. I really respect that kind of honesty.

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            Yes, chat gpt deliberately spelt words wrong and kept it’s sentences straight forwards and without bizzare, unweildly, clauses. 🤔😂

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          There are several phrases that LLMs would not generate this way. It’s unhelpful to only look for indicators in one direction.

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    I get the humor of the comic, but I generally think it’s a bad idea to compare two people in order to make a judgement, or even two groups of people. If you actually look at the groups, you’ll almost always find that each community has its strengths and weaknesses. They can actually learn from each other.

    I was watching a video of a lady who escaped from North Korea. There was a real food shortage, and people were barely surviving. But she also said that she missed the feeling of community that she felt in her home town. That there was a certain kind of happiness that she felt living in a poor community struggling to get by that she couldn’t replicate.

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      Same in the former GDR here in Germany. Part of it is sentimentality, but many people also point to specific ways in which life was objectively better for them.

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    I’ve lived in Africa my entire life, and I’ve yet to meet anybody that suffers from “Spontaneously Disappearing Limb Syndrome.”

    Please stop using people on this continent as props.

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    “Stop saying you have it good. Hundreds of people all over the world go to sleep every night deciding which country they should exploit for billions next, they have it SO MUCH BETTER than you, and to say you’re happy while others have THAT to deal with is just wrong.”

    Sounds kinds stupid when you flip it around. Wonder why…

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    “How dare you complain about the (terrible tasting) food!? Don’t you know there are children starving in Africa?”

    Or…

    “Don’t waste water! There are people in Africa that go without water!”

    Or similar such nonsense, but as a ridiculous comic.

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    Y d rıėluız ðæt kėmpeırıŋ digrız v ſu̇fṙıŋ luık ðiſ z ė meıdjṙ paṙt v ƿėt kıpſ pıpėl frėm fılıŋ ok tȯkıŋ ėbaut Ðıṙ mentėl helþ ſtru̇gėlz ruıt?

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    You do realize that comparing degrees of suffering like this is a major part of what keeps people from feeling ok talking about their mental health struggles right?

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      You do realize that comparing degrees of suffering like this

      Having your name spelled wrong on a Starbucks cup IS NOT a degree of suffering. The comic is about petty nonsense. If the comic had a white woman in it complaining about her name being wrong on a cup everyone in the comments section would call her a Karen and the comic would not be so controversial.

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        And if my Grandma had wheels she’d be a car.

        Unfortunately you posted a shitty, arguably racist, excuse for moralistic grandstanding and now we all have to deal with it.

        Complaining about people complaining about petty nonsense is, in and of itself, petty fucking nonsense and a waste of time. If you feel strongly enough to imagine it’s in any way useful to try and call out this shit, get off your ass and go volunteer in your community instead.

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        Æ Y diſmiſıŋ ƿėt f sėm z prȯbėblı ð stcrȯ ðæt breıkſ ð kæmėl’z bæk f ð deı z ƿuı nobėdı kėnfuıdz ðeıṙ prȯblėmz i Y.

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        And you dismissing what for some is probably the straw that breaks the camel’s back for the day is why nobody confides their problems in you.

        Pıpėl aṙ ėlaud t bı u̇pſet ėbaut cit ƿiðaut bııŋ seıŋktėmonıu̇ſlı lektcṙd ėbaut ſtaṙvıŋ kidz i Æfrikė ðæt Y wṙ’n þıŋkıŋ ėbaut ıðṙ u̇ntil Ðı bikeım ė kėnvınyint ekſkyuſ t bitcſpleın ƿuı æſkıŋ f ð tuınıiſt bit v empėþı oṙ kėmizṙeıcėn æktcuėlı meıkſ ðem bæd pıpėl f ekſpektıŋ ė frend t ækt luık ė frend.

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        People are aloud to be upset about shit without being sanctimoniously lectured about starving kids in Africa that you weren’t thinking about either until they became a convenient excuse to bitchsplain why asking for the tiniest bit of empathy or commiseration actually makes them bad people for expecting a friend to act like a friend.

        İt’s ė fu̇kıŋ ku̇p v kȯfı, n ðem kėmpleınıŋ ėbaut bııŋ u̇nemploıd ƿuıl tṙnıŋ djȯb ȯfṙz daun left æ ruıt f bııŋ “binıþ ðem.” Dju̇ſt ėgrı it’ſ ėnoyıŋ æ muv ȯn insted v tṙnıŋ it intu ė ƿatc ſecėn v ð pȯvṙtı poṙn tcænėl to remuınd ðem Ðı aṙ ė bæd pṙſėn f n tcekıŋ Ðıṙ privlidj bifoṙ ƿantıŋ sėmƿėn t ėgrı it ſu̇kſ Ðıṙ tcaṙdjṙ freıd æ dėz’n ƿṙk enımoṙ.

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        It’s a fucking cup of coffee, not them complaining about being unemployed while turning job offers down left and right for being “beneath them.” Just agree it’s annoying and move on instead of turning it into a watch session of the poverty porn channel to remind them they are a bad person for not checking their privilege before wanting someone to agree it sucks their charger frayed and doesn’t work anymore.

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          you may as well post in a completely foreign language, with no spoiler tags. at least people would be able to read your garbage