• Queen HawlSera@lemm.ee
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    2 hours ago

    When I get clocked as autistic I activate a defense mechanism where I play into the stereotype and pretend to be a hyper intelligent child in a 30 year old’s body.

    This surprisingly works because I’m a woman (meaning society is infantalizing me anyway) and most of my hobbies are childish things like Sonic and Yu-Gi-Oh so it does allow me to indulge in them in public without fear.

    So people just tend to think I’m adorable for some reason.

    Sadly I couldn’t even stop doing that if I wanted to. I kinda do because I hate being stereotyped and I know I’m not doing other autistic people any favors… but… I swear it’s not even voluntary it’s like a weird reflex.

    I even do this softer less intimidating voice that creeps my boyfriend out. Honestly I think I have another personality that’s just younger than my main one or something.

  • ERROR: Earth.exe has crashed@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    10 hours ago

    I’m depressed AF and I’m supposed to running PretendingtoBeHappyAndNormal.exe but it crashed because its missing some NeurotransmitterBalance.dll files and I can’t download the .dll because the internet is too slow 🙃

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    21 hours ago

    Damn I’m not on the spectrum as far as I know, but I identify with this a lot. Expectations are heavy on the social creature.

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      6 hours ago

      Same. As an introvert I call this being “on”. Like making sure I smile appropriately and then wondering if I’m smiling too much, trying to establish a rapport when I’d rather just get to the point, remembering not to mutter to myself or make faces in response to my thoughts, and mirroring people’s body language. It’s easier just to be a weirdo!

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      7 hours ago

      Most of these types of posts are not really about autism specifically, it is just about social mores and feeling alienated, something which happens to most non-autistic people as well.

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      17 hours ago

      Many of us spend way too much time conforming to others opinion on public social conduct. Those same judgmental people spend no time or effort on tolerating us. They probably would have enough brain power to keep breathing if they did.

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    23 hours ago

    I often think of neurodiversity as operating systems. Most people, the neurotypicals, are running on Windows. But us neurospicy people, we run on Linux. There are a lot of distros, different, but still kinda similar in some ways, you’re usually not taught how to operate them, have to find out a lot by yourself though it isn’t necessarily hard to learn if you’really given the opportunity and your environment just lets you be without too much expectations to run Windows software. And mostly, the normies don’t get it and can’t be bothered to learn about it. (Also there’s Mac but that’s those weird people who say they are different but really only do it for the clout. Or they’re just artists.)

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      23 hours ago

      Tbh I’m getting a little tired of neurodivergence being worn like a badge of distinction. People who are neurodivergent aren’t necessarily smarter, more creative or in any other way better than people who aren’t. I’m neurodivergent myself, but so are Musk and Trump FFS.

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          6 hours ago

          Yeah I don’t think narcissistic personality disorder is considered neurodivergent.

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        22 hours ago

        Sure, and there are plenty of queer shit bags out there too but I doubt you’d make the same point about being tired of people wearing their sexuality like a badge of distinction. There are terrible people of color out there as well, would you tell entire demographics to stop flaunting their race/ethnicity?

        It’s as important for neurodivergent people to be visible and vocal advocates for their rights as it is for any other marginalized group

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          21 hours ago

          “Queer shit bags”? It’s not a gender issue, I was saying exactly what I did say, specifically about the term neurodiversity, period. I’m not going to address your other head canon.

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            Queer is often used as a catch-all for gender and/or sexuality. Either way you took that, there are marginalized groups based on both of those things. And just because some queer people are shittty or have a superiority complex based on their gender/sexuality, doesn’t mean that people being out and vocal about their lives is a bad thing.

            It’s not about neurodivergent people being smarter or better than neurotyoical people. It’s about neurodivergent people acknowledging that our minds work differently than neurotyoicals and advocating for our rights. If you want to fixate on some ass clowns who make their neurodivergence their whole personality and use that to say that we, broadly, as a marginalized group shouldn’t be visible, vocal, or (dare I say) proud of aspects of our neurodivergence, because “people wear it like a badge of distinction”, you need to work on some of your internalized prejudice.

            Do you tell neurotypicals to not be proud of themselves? Do you get mad about pride parades? If your answer to either of those questions was no, you need to ask yourself why it’s different for neurodivergence

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    22 hours ago

    Exactly what i’ve been saying for a while now. The analogy goes even further: Windows is often used to carry out day-to-day office work, while Linux is used on servers, research/development machines, and anytime you need something non-standard/flexibility.

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    1 day ago

    When I was a teen I wanted nothing more than to fit in, now I’m older I want nothing more than to be seen as weird.