• 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    4
    arrow-down
    26
    ·
    20 hours ago

    will you date a fat guy regardless of his political alignment?

    short answer: no long answer: hell nooooooooo

    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      19
      ·
      20 hours ago

      I see this on 4chan all the time. You’ve got this demand among the NEETs that their partners look like supermodels, then a bunch of screaming and crying when a woman is repulsed by their bad grooming or poor manners.

      On the flip side, you’ve got the /r/RelationshipAdvice threads where “RED FLAG! DUMP HIM!” is this pre-programmed response to damned near every post. Guys who aren’t sexy enough are undateable trash. Guys who are too sexy are skeazy fuckbois (or worse… gay!)

      But then you log the fuck off, touch grass, and meet dozens of happy couples of every size and shape and disposition. You even see people with disparate political philosophies dating, because not everyone is a fucking nerd obsessed with primary results and poll numbers and creating some kind of breeding program to win the next election cycle.

      • 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        arrow-down
        26
        ·
        edit-2
        20 hours ago

        no, social media has brainwashed women that fat = bad gymbro/skinny = good. that’s why i gave up on dating and just gunna be chillin. being a 35 yr old NEET just chillin. fuck life, less stress is better anyways.

        • omarfw@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          2 hours ago

          that was the case long before social media showed up. those people were always going to end up superficial and thus incompatible with you even if social media didn’t exist. consumerism is what caused the obsession with ego and image. social media is just another stage of consumerism.

        • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          11
          ·
          19 hours ago

          social media has brainwashed women that fat = bad gymbro/skinny = good

          My Brother in Christ, we’ve had this standard since Calvin Klein plastered half the country in heroin-sheik underwear models. You are two generations late to the party.

          that’s why i gave up on dating

            • SLVRDRGN@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              9
              ·
              11 hours ago

              I’m 35 too. I’ve lived in many places. I don’t know why you’re creating this reality for yourself. But you have to change the language you use or you’ll always see things this way.

      • rabber@lemmy.ca
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        3
        arrow-down
        1
        ·
        16 hours ago

        I also know plenty of conservatives happily dating, what’s your point exactly then

      • 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        arrow-down
        9
        ·
        18 hours ago

        oh trust me it is. i actually deleted online dating apps after being called peter griffin even though i dont have a double or triple chin unless i really tuck my head in. im 35, i dont have time for shit like that

        • jjjalljs@ttrpg.network
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          10
          ·
          18 hours ago

          Ok, let me amend my position: body mass is not a universal deal breaker. There are people who will reject someone on appearance or weight, but there are many people who would find that same person attractive.

          • 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            1
            arrow-down
            6
            ·
            16 hours ago

            i don’t believe that, but like i can’t force someone to change what their preferences are, i don’t want to change who i am. its just easier to give up

            • MonkRome@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              2
              ·
              edit-2
              2 hours ago

              Mentally going through all the couples I know and half of them involve overweight men. Absurd to live in North America and think you can’t date if overweight, 1/3 of our continent is overweight and the majority of that is men. Over 2/3 of Canadians are in common law relationships or married at the age of 35-44. To be this deluded you have to believe basically 100% of single people are overweight, which is not true. But seeing what you type I’m guessing weight has nothing to do with it, people don’t like people with defeatist, lazy, downer personalities way more than they dislike overweight people.

              App dating isn’t the only way forward, you actually have to have a life and put yourself out there. All my relationships were when I wasn’t really looking but still kept my circle of friends wide, and I’m not an extrovert.

            • jjjalljs@ttrpg.network
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              2
              ·
              14 hours ago

              Easier maybe, but less likely to have the best outcomes. I’m sorry dating has been bad for you, and the apps are absolutely predatory, but there’s always hope