• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    23 hours ago

    I see this on 4chan all the time. You’ve got this demand among the NEETs that their partners look like supermodels, then a bunch of screaming and crying when a woman is repulsed by their bad grooming or poor manners.

    On the flip side, you’ve got the /r/RelationshipAdvice threads where “RED FLAG! DUMP HIM!” is this pre-programmed response to damned near every post. Guys who aren’t sexy enough are undateable trash. Guys who are too sexy are skeazy fuckbois (or worse… gay!)

    But then you log the fuck off, touch grass, and meet dozens of happy couples of every size and shape and disposition. You even see people with disparate political philosophies dating, because not everyone is a fucking nerd obsessed with primary results and poll numbers and creating some kind of breeding program to win the next election cycle.

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      23 hours ago

      no, social media has brainwashed women that fat = bad gymbro/skinny = good. that’s why i gave up on dating and just gunna be chillin. being a 35 yr old NEET just chillin. fuck life, less stress is better anyways.

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        Homey there are plenty of women who like a guy with some heft. Belly is fine as long as you’re still moving around ok and have decent grooming.

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        that was the case long before social media showed up. those people were always going to end up superficial and thus incompatible with you even if social media didn’t exist. consumerism is what caused the obsession with ego and image. social media is just another stage of consumerism.

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        22 hours ago

        social media has brainwashed women that fat = bad gymbro/skinny = good

        My Brother in Christ, we’ve had this standard since Calvin Klein plastered half the country in heroin-sheik underwear models. You are two generations late to the party.

        that’s why i gave up on dating

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            14 hours ago

            I’m 35 too. I’ve lived in many places. I don’t know why you’re creating this reality for yourself. But you have to change the language you use or you’ll always see things this way.