She gained some weight but she is not fat at all!
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“You callin my girl fat you piece of shit?!”
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Thank you for a serious answer. I would love it if a man did this for me after I expressed dislike about my appearance.
You have to rebuke her. For real. Go like this:
" Don’t you dare! I love this lovely girl here. Don’t you dare badmouth her or you’ll have to deal with me! "
(and not a word about fat or weight or width or any outside descriptions, because this is only about self deprecation)
My partner flat asked if I still find her as attractive as I used to. After some thought I said the following, “I don’t think that’s fair. You’re asking me to rate someone I care about so much. I don’t want to do that. I love you and just want to be there for you, with you.”
Tbh, I don’t know what the right answer might be for others. I’m not that wise. All I know for certain is how I feel and hoped that was enough. It was, though I am sad that I can’t take her self-esteem and tear away those damn chains that hold it back from growing.
A classic non-answer answer. You will do well with women.
That’s what I say as well and not just to those sort of questions.
‘I’m not gonna answer that since there’s no upside to it regardless of what I say.’
It’s my go to for unfair questions/questions my opinion doesn’t matter in.
Just say “you’re absolutely gorgeous, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.”
“I said I was fat, not ugly.”
“I know a trap when I see one”
A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.
I don’t know what you’re talking about. Get naked and let’s have a closer look.
I stand with this person
I am hung up about weight like this. Spent so long on the far side of skinny that smack in the middle of healthy makes me feel I look fat. I do say I am fat, I know objectively that is not true but I miss being too skinny. Just venting really.
I think just say that she is built great now, and you like it, but it’s her body. She probably isn’t worried that YOU think she’s fat. She is bothered because SHE thinks she’s fat.
Slam your fist on the counter and shout " I’m fatter, dammit!"
Tilt your head down to her stomach and coo “om nom nom” playfully
My gf has been asking me repeatedly if I think she’s a cow.
I said no for about a month or so when I remembered what I’d told her not lokgn after we started dating: I’m just going to agree with anything negative you say about yourself until you stop saying it.
Responding with things like: yes, yes I do… or: MOOOOOOO. Or: yeah, a dn sexy cow, lemme see them milkers, seems to have put a stop to it quick. Or any of the self deprecating tracks she tends to get on.
It seems to be the only thing that gets her off these weird self de}reacting spirals for some reason
She kept on asking if she looked like a Teletubby for a while so I kept saying . “Tubby custard” at weird times and it stopped.
If this sounds mean, I’m very supportive and often compliment her )looks / accomplishments and she usually laughs when it happens. It’s not done with malice and we both laugh at it.
“I love all of you”
Well it isn’t mine. I had a vasectomy.
Other than saying things like, you dont look fat to me, i would love you even if you were the size of a whale, etc.
One thing that i find is pretty useful for all people to remember:
When you see other people who are overweight or a but chunky, etc. Do you judge them for it? Do you focus on it and think “whoah look at fatty over there!”?
I don’t. Sure, i notice when someone is fat, but only as much asbi notice someone whonis really thin or just a normal weight. It doesn’t change how i interact with them or if i would be their friend, etc.
Other people aren’t judging you if you are fat. (Im sure there are some, but they are terrible people, and their opinions dont matter)
Most people are too concerned with how they look to notice/care about how you look. So dont worry about it. Just aim to be healthy. Dont stress over weight for looks.
Oh me too
