• [email protected]@sh.itjust.works
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    1 day ago

    I think they’re trying to say that he doesn’t even feel like her backup, he’s her backup x times removed. Which kinda undercuts his point a bit, but does set the stage for a complete removal of attraction and the very particular manic ending they wrote for their story

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      There’s something insulting about being the one she wants to settle down with after a bunch of flings etc.

      When’s my turn to have fun?

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        22 hours ago

        I hope some day you can reflect on this statement and realise the toxicity behind it.

        Edit: I guess the downvoters don’t like to be called out?

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            23 hours ago

            Nothing at all, but that last line, “When is my turn to have fun?” Is a bit transactional, like there’s an expectation and that’s the problematic part.

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              19 hours ago

              like there’s an expectation

              you can have expectations from relationships. you don’t have to, and not every relationship has them, but it’s perfectly fine to have them, as long as the other person’s fine with that.

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              23 hours ago

              Exactly, but also immediately assuming you’d be the “backup” on this and it of course cannot be genuine love.

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                22 hours ago

                Anon grows and changes in a 5 year span, and his romantic interests change.

                Girls opinion on romance is different in 5 years.

                “I don’t want to be the backup.”

                Men can grow and change over 5 years. Women? Nah. She just wanted to fuck around and now she’s settling.

                This train of thought is some terminally online shit. Then again, complaining that green text is some terminally online shit is insane in its own account.

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      1 day ago

      Why are you being charitable to a greentext poster lmfao. It’s like when the skinhead starts saying dogwhistles and someone is like “well maybe he doesn’t know it’s a dog whistle”.

      Idk man, maybe you’ve not been exposed to enough 4chan.

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        22 hours ago

        sure, let’s just assume malice or ill intent whenever possible, and forget about any empathy or sympathy.

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            21 hours ago

            i’m just tired of internet toxicity tbh. Not as in “Oh no, they laugh about Kirk’s assasination”, mind you, that shit is actually hillarious, neither i care about anyone’s political oriantation as long as they’re a decent human being. I’m talking about this unprompted toxic bullshit like “oh, they’re using this site, they must be a jerk!”. That’s literally the same rhetoric that politicians use to create “us vs them” narrative, except they do it on another basis like nationality or whatever.

            Did your day go so wrong that you need to let it all out somehow, but this is the only way you found? Genuinely asking btw

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              7 hours ago

              You tired of internet toxicity yet defend the archetype of toxic masculinity with this greentext. Is everyone upvoting this a Tate fan?

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                6 hours ago

                I’m not defending anyone. This story being made up is entirely possible. What I’m bothered by, and what i don’t want to let slide is the fact that people just assume malice from a person simply because they made a post on a certain website and not the on the other one around. It’s a scary tendency that, if extrapolated, makes internet into a place full of tribalism and hostility.

                Also, you gotta explain to me, how the post is an example of toxic masculinity, and exactly what archetype do i defend from your point of view.

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                  “She fucked too many guys” as if this is a competition or there is an amount of guys that is ok and a threshold where it is not ok. Like she owes him not to have sex at all somehow. Most of the rest sounds sane but just throwing that in out of nowhere shows this guy’s toxic masculinity.

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                    when you put it like this, it does sound fucked up. In the context of the post tho, percieved it more like the anon is telling that she’s so uninterested in him that during all the time they known each other, she found a dozen of other sexual / romantic partners, without ever considering him as one, despite knowing he was into her, conciously manupulating him into staying, to keep him as a last resort.

                    Surely, it wasn’t put in words form in the nicest way possible, and if your interpretation is correct, he’s far from a decent human being, but i can’t say i have a much better impression about the girl in question either.

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              btw, just so you know, thanks to some particularily heated instances over here, i’ve seen people with opinion just like yours but about the fediverse.

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                20 hours ago

                Let’s not act like 4chan has ever been anything but a infamous shithole that attracts shitheads. It has the worst possible reputation: it doesn’t attract good people. Sorry. You sound delightful, tho, all your pettiness and pretentiousness aside.

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                  19 hours ago

                  so? Is this enough of a reason to spread it further? “Shitheads” aren’t exclusive to 4chan, and you’re microscopically close to being the live demonstration of this fect.

                  I asked you if anything is wrong, because unlike you i don’t want to fall into attribution bias and call someone a bad person simply because they behave like a jerk, everyone has bad days. Yet, you insist on keeying your way of thought, which is actually shitty and loathsome.

                  I hope you exert this behaviour because you’re just a spoiled edgy child, and not because you’re so utterly fucked up by life that you actually became this hateful and bitter.

                  please don’t be like this and take care <3

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                    19 hours ago

                    I just don’t even know what to say to you. Do you understand that you are being the shithead? You’re actively insulting me while all I’m pointing out is that incel-adjacent language being used in a notorious incel/extremist breeding ground is highly suspect? Jesus. Reread your post and realize that you are massively projecting onto me.

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        23 hours ago

        Idk man, maybe you’ve not been exposed to enough 4chan.

        Or maybe he has experienced enough 4chan to the point where he realises those hidden meanings.