• ook@discuss.tchncs.de
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    18 hours ago

    I hope some day you can reflect on this statement and realise the toxicity behind it.

    Edit: I guess the downvoters don’t like to be called out?

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        18 hours ago

        Nothing at all, but that last line, “When is my turn to have fun?” Is a bit transactional, like there’s an expectation and that’s the problematic part.

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          15 hours ago

          like there’s an expectation

          you can have expectations from relationships. you don’t have to, and not every relationship has them, but it’s perfectly fine to have them, as long as the other person’s fine with that.

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          18 hours ago

          Exactly, but also immediately assuming you’d be the “backup” on this and it of course cannot be genuine love.

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            17 hours ago

            Anon grows and changes in a 5 year span, and his romantic interests change.

            Girls opinion on romance is different in 5 years.

            “I don’t want to be the backup.”

            Men can grow and change over 5 years. Women? Nah. She just wanted to fuck around and now she’s settling.

            This train of thought is some terminally online shit. Then again, complaining that green text is some terminally online shit is insane in its own account.