• Death_Equity@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I am pretty hard to offend because I know they are trying to offend me and I know they are made of easily mechanically separated meat.

  • Lokiya@lemmy.world
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    I was first called a dyke then bull dyke in elementary school. I had no idea what it meant and the boy who was calling me that was hitting my head from his seat on the bus behind me. So I grabbed his backpack and and flipped him over the seat.

    All the gay slurs were the most common to use against me. Though I did get called a n- lover a few times as well.

    When I was younger I fought back physically and/ or verbally. As I got older I would just question the person on why what they were calling me was a bad thing.

    Though I do think my favorite come back for any of the gay slurs when thrown by afab people would be saying: “yeah and trust me, it will never be an issue for you.” While giving them the up and down with a disgusted expression. Seeing the confusion then anger then confusion go across their faces was always amazing. They couldn’t argue with it other wise they would be saying they wanted to be seen as attractive by someone of the same sex.

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      All the examples you told, say absolutely nothing about you but tons of things about the other person.

      They are basically shouting “LOOK AT ME, I’M A HATEFUL BIGOT!!”
      Thats way worse then anything they could call you.

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        That’s pretty advice, but doesn’t help much when you’re a kid who’s getting chronicly bullied while the adults look on.

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          I didn’t say this would help nor did I give any advice. I just stated my opinion about bigoted bullies.

  • DrPop@lemmy.world
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    I got called a white N-word by an African man because I was doing my job. I hung up on his ass after I realized what he was saying.

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    When I was a kid I had a friend who’d call me the R slur pretty frequently. Besides ADHD Im basically nurotypjcal, he just meant to say I was being stupid. I kind of internalized it at the time and it gave me some self confidence issues about my intelligence, but I think that would’ve happened even if he wasn’t using a slur.

  • I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world
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    I’m embarrassed to say it was only a couple years ago when some white people got national attention for getting bent out of shape about being called “cracker” that I learned it doesn’t mean like, “bland and pale like a Saltine,” but is a reference to enslavers and their whips. I’d always thought it was kinda cute, like “Mayo-American.”

    So I used to give a kind of “Yeah… you got me…” chuckle when called that, but now it just makes me sad and throws me into a bit of an existential crisis on behalf of my ancestors.

    There is a charming Lemmy user who likes to call people “hags” after mining their comments to learn if they are of the lady persuasion. I do not yet, but plan to some day identify as a “swamp hag” so it feels preemptive, but a bit exciting.

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      Not laughing at you being called a cracker but laughing because swamp hag made me think of Poison Ivy from the DC comics. And until this post did I even think cracker was related to slavery. I always thought its because I am white and look like a Saltine. Thank you for the education …no sarcasm

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      At least in certain circles, “hag” has been claimed by older women in a joking fashion. Still, for someone to go digging into comment history just to be able to use that is kinda mental.

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        I’d forgotten about r/oldhagfashion from the other place. I do miss it. I don’t think my hag fashion is on point enough yet to start it myself though. Someday.

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    A hexbear called me a “chaser” because I said my wife is a femboy. I laughed it off because I don’t care what transphobic children believe.

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    Where do we draw the line for slur?

    I’m sure we can all agree that one word that starts with N would count, but what about doo-doo-head, dumbass, or fatso?

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      As a student of history I could mention a couple besides the N word that probably no one uses today. But I don’t want to get banned.

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    All the time. A slur can tell you about one’s honest thoughts which in turn can tell you about the slur. In any case, it affects how I see them which in turn affects my courses of action towards them.

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    “Are you saying you expect us to warranty the engine and a 10-yo car with 140,000 miles, that you bought used? Because that ain’t gonna happen.”

    “Ooohh! You a smart ass little cracker ain’t ya!” And hung up.

    Had to grab a black coworker and ask what a cracker was.