Edit: while I’m at it, does anyone know what I should do when I’m waiting for a coincidence/adventure to happen, but it never comes? I can’t really go outside and arrange for it to happen because I don’t know what I’m looking for.
I don’t know who originally said it, but “Everything in moderation, including moderation.” That is, it’s okay to go overboard on something as long as that’s an exception, not a norm. Want to eat a whole carton of ice cream? It’s not going to kill you if you do it, as long as you don’t do it every weekend. Enjoy stuff, don’t be excessive generally, but the rare occasion is just fine.
Note: there are, of course, exceptions. You probably don’t want to try even a little black tar heroin unless you’re okay with the risk of becoming an addict.
“Never half-ass two things. Whole-ass one thing.”
-Ron Swanson
This one really applies to me right now. It’s just so hard to bring yourself to do the whole-hearted thing when the whole-hearted thing comes at a price
“You’re imagining everyone in this story way more attractive than they actually were.”
- some reddit guy“I have the right to wipe my ass with a pinecone, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do.”
Building self esteem requires esteemable acts.
“I’ll take a weird person over a mean person any day.”
“Heroes are not giant statues framed against a red sky, they are people who say ‘This is my community and it’s my responsibility to make it better.’” - Tom McCall, Oregon Governor 1967-1974.
Life’s a bitch and then you die, that’s why we get high 'Cause you never know when you’re gonna go
Self explanatory
“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is right now.”
Stop regretting what you didn’t do in the past, and do it now. Time will continue to march into the future irrespective of whatever actions you take. In another 20 years from now would you like to arrive there having accomplished many of your goals or accomplishing nothing?
„Bees don’t waste their time explaining flies that honey tastes better than shit.“
Haha this is a good one. I can see where it applies
Be angry at the sun for setting If these things anger you.
-Robinson Jeffers
This is a good one. People around me get angry about the stupidest things.
“Easy things tend to become hard, and hard things tend to become easy.”
This was said to me by my mentor when I was contemplating a very difficult career choice. I have found a lot of truth in it through various areas of my life. The most striking has been watching people I knew when I was much younger who always look for the easy way out of whatever life throws at them. Over time I’ve watched how this catches up to people and makes life much harder for them because they never plan, never save, never deny themselves in the moment.
The most-predictable method I know-of, for producing inability-to-plan, is chaotic/incomprehensible parenting or home-situation:
The child learns that there is no cause-effect relationship, that no planning is going to produce any results, & this lesson alters their unconscious brain-wiring … by the age of 7?
Possibly younger.
WHEN life is irrational & chaotic, THEN planning is wasted-effort, & only immediate-gratification produces any worthwhile results.
That sabotage-of-a-life isn’t undoable.
Worse, it’s self-perpetuating, generation on generation.
Breaking the cycle … how could it happen?
You’d need to break the brokenness in the parenting, itself, & you’d need to do it consistently, for the next-generation, so they grew-up with stable & trustworthy parenting, through years of young-childhood…
how could such result be created.
No population would tolerate such alteration of their family-process, would they?
Not sure why you were downvoted. In some instances I think this may absolutely be a factor and the generational perpetuation of such an environment is hard to overstate. My spouse and I refer to it as “One Hundred Years of Solitude” after the amazing novel by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. If you haven’t read it, it follows this family in Columbia through multiple generations showing how self-destructive behaviors can be passed through generations in a self-perpetuating way. That’s an aside to say that I agree that yes I suspect that for some folks this is a part of the story.
“Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.”
That’s much nicer than the way I used to put it: “Nobody likes assholes. So it doesn’t matter if you are right, if you still are an asshole.”
Haha true. Yet they say the equivalent thing
Wisdom is the tendency to make decisions that turn out well. It’s got nothing to do with convincing others your ideas are right.
Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.
Practice the basics, get it right. Don’t try to go faster for the sake of going faster, you’ll hit your limit and get sloppy and pickup bad habits. Test your limits to learn them, but don’t hit them every time. Get comfortable within them and the goal posts will move.
This is good
a hippy dippy one:
“whatever time it happened was the right time, whoever was there were the right people, whatever happened was the only thing that could have happened. It is always your time to do it, and same for everyone else.”
This one resonates with me a lot. I go with the flow for almost everything and while it’s unpredictable and chaotic at times, i’m often much better for it. I’m attuned to myself and what i need so in any given situation i can get myself together and figure out a way to keep moving forward.
