My brother and I have been best friends for most of our lives. He’s so much fun to hang out with, has a great degree of emotional intelligence, and I’m just so proud of him.

My sister went full blown right wing “Christian “ Trumper. We barely talk. Haven’t seen each other in years

Very distant

We’re both in our 40s now with my sister being 4 yrs younger.

I recently went to a therapy thing that dug up allot of the past. This made me reach out to her to see if it was as bad as I remembered.

Turns out it was way worse with her having a similar journey just before me. We sat in the pub drinking coffee and chatting for 5 hours.

During that conversation we realises thar even to this day our parents were manipulating us to keep is distant.

The worst manipulation was when our kids were young we had a silly argument over you forgot to get my kid a present for a birthday (we hadn’t just not gotten it to a mutual drop off point with it. Usually my dads) pater that yr my youngest landed in hospital forest of the year. Thought she was going tondie levels of terrified.

They manipulate her with that stupid argument to make her terrified to visit. She did phone the hospital for updates but avoided talking to us while my parents made comments to me about her not being interested.

I don’t think we will ever be close but we are in a way better place and now know the shit our parents are pulling to better avoid the traps.

If that fucker wants a glass of water I might throw some ice cubes at his face, if I like him that day.
But the second he needs a new heart I’ll rip out mine with my own hands if I have to. (Don’t you dare tell him that though, I’ll deny even thinking about it)

Great. My older bro is one of my best friends. He lives halfway across the country but I’m excited for him to move much closer next year when their lease is up. My younger brother and I play Xbox nearly every day together even though he lives 12 hours away. My two younger sisters live two houses down and we are very close. My older sister lives about 40 min away and is probably the sibling I am most distant from emotionally but we still get along and see each other several times a year.

We’re pretty distant. I’m older but only by 17 months. I love my sister and wish her well but I don’t trust her enough to be close with her. Our mother really did a number on us and I have to be very careful what I tell her, because I don’t have any faith she won’t share it with our mom. And it’s a shame because if we could talk honestly I think we’d have a lot to commiserate on. As it stands we trade texts very occasionally, mostly focused on nostalgia for some TV show or game we played as kids. Never anything more personal than that. It’s usually months between texts.

Her dog died and I wanted to send a sympathy text, but my mother asked me not to because she wasn’t supposed to tell anyone the dog died… well then why on earth did you tell me!!!

We are two women in our forties still goosestepping around a difficult mom who I strongly suspect is borderline, and because of the way she treated us growing up, our sibling relationship basically became collateral damage.

We call each other and catch up occasionally, text here and there, send Christmas and birthday gifts, meet up when I’m in town. My brother used to be my best friend when we were kiddos.

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I haven’t seen or spoken with my siblings in several years. I was always the black sheep among my sibling group and when my parents divorced, it basically just made it that much more concrete.

Personally I don’t regret it, though every now and then I wonder how they’re getting on with life.

We’re practically Blood family

Odd.

I love my sibling - but they’re kind of an asshole. There isn’t any real malice behind it, or at least I’d like to think so, but they just do not consider the opinions, feelings or needs of others at all. A little bit of that is healthy. I’m talking to an unhealthy degree. It has repeatedly bit them in the ass, and was a major factor in torpedoing what could have been a good career before it could get going, so thoroughly that they’ll likely never work in the field they trained for.

In the last couple years, they’ve at least started to learn when it’s best to just keep their mouth shut, but it was a long time coming.

At their core, they are not a bad person, but I always find myself frustrated with something after spending time with them, which is upsetting. I really wish this wasn’t the case.

My sister and I are incredibly close. She’s my fave person ever. She was adopted the day before my 13th birthday. We say she’s the best birthday gift I’ve ever gotten lol. She and I may bicker at times, but we will fiercely defend one another from bullies and whatnot. Someone I know spoke badly about her having autism and intellectual disabilities in my presence and I went off on them. You don’t disrespect my sister. My sister once defended me in a similar situation when she mentioned my chronic pain condition.

She has been taking excellent care of me lately because I am laid up with a broken ankle/leg that needed surgery to fix. I did the same for her when she had spine surgery.

She and I share so much with each other. Probably more than anyone else but our mom. My sister constantly comes into the room I’m staying in to talk and show me her drawings. She talks about her friends and how they’re doing and if she has plans with them. She’ll read me the letters she’s going to send to her friend who is in the military.

She’s the best. I get frustrated with her when she throws fits or doesn’t listen to me when I try to help her handle the dogs, but that feeling is temporary.

From the moment I met her, she was my favorite person. We put her in the car, she was 3 at the time, and she said “Mommy, Sissy, where we goin?” My mom and I broke into happy tears when we heard that.

Gosh I love her so much.

I went full no contact about a decade ago. After dealing with crippling lonelyness and finally figuring out how to manage my mental health I decided to open up again a couple years back. Some days are better than others. Most of my family is still a hot mess and not progressing toward any meanginful change. But they’re there and I’m better at keeping their issues at arms length so it’s not all bad. Nice to have people talk to, even if it’s mostly about drama they got themselves into

Our parents gave us authority over each other and that almost ruined my relationship with them, but as I started to operate separately from them, I’ve begun to miss them.

I’ve two half-brothers in their early 20s.

One ghosted me about 7yrs ago after our dad fell out with me.

The other refuses to speak to me cos he thinks I should have been more “present” in his life.

Both a pair of cunts in different ways. I’ve decided not to bother contacting them.