• vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works
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    14 hours ago

    Why history? If a woman came up toe and started talking about bronze age trade routes and the contributing factors for the fall of the Indus valley civilization I’d be more than happy. Wait the guy who made this is a gormless pissant, astrology is a red flag.

  • chocrates@piefed.world
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    23 hours ago

    Wait I’m not supposed to trauma dump about my mental illnesses? I’ve been doing it fucking wrong

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      19 hours ago

      That’s how I made about half of my friends, probably wait for a dating scenario though.

      Probably start with taking turns infodumping about your favorite topics if you’re on a date with someone similar.

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      21 hours ago

      Switching back to Colleen Hoover can correct that course but not after 33 minutes into bipolar disorder or 18 minutes into manic depression.

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    1 day ago

    “Yes, I work in… Finance something. How much do I make? I don’t even know if you’re good or bad yet.”

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    1 day ago

    It’s surprising more men don’t wear heels when dating. Women have all sorts enhancements, it’s only fair we do the same.

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      14 hours ago

      Ha I think there’s a long list of enhancements that many women do that more men should do. Put effort into your outfit, smell decent, drink a little less than normal when on a date.

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        7 hours ago

        Tried black nails for a bit and got mixed reviews. Just started in a j*b so I guess I would not be painting them outside weekends.

        Gotta go out more tho.

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        24 hours ago

        I tried the nail polish thing but I work with too many chemicals that strip paint for it to last more than a day. Rings are also a big no no in my job because I work with electricity. I guess I could do eye shaddow but my eyelids are naturally dark enough that I’ve already been accused of wearing it before.

        Skirts on the otherhand would be excelent for keeping me cool. Just might not be great for my coworker following me up the roof ladder.

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            23 hours ago

            There are pros to working in my field for femboys though. For one example, regularly lugging an 80lb pack of tools up and down roof access ladders has given me calves and thighs that could make a person weep. Femboys are also typically better equipped for working in confined spaces. Additionally, having ready access to a hardhat, hi-vis vest, clipboard, and toolbelt enables so many crimes. I can also see some of my hi-vis workwear having serious potential as club wear with a bit of modification.

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          23 hours ago

          might not be great for my coworker following me up the roof ladder.

          That’s a choice they made. Go on, queen!

    • blarghly@lemmy.world
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      20 hours ago

      Actual heels would be feminine. The concept of high heels is feminine coded. The strut you do when wearing heels is feminine coded.

      I once bought a pair of steel toe redwing logging boots for a job I had. They had stupid high heels - like, I must have got a 4" boost. Which I found really annoying, since Im already 6’4". But I can almost guarentee the guy who sold them to me bought them just for that feature, as he was probably a 5’4" blue collar dude with a big truck.

      Guys have no real qualms about using fashion to make themselves taller. Heel lifts are a thing. You can probably add 3" to your height without anyone noticing with a 1" platform and a 2" lift or whatever.

      What they have a problem with is doing things that are feminine. Which - and it is weird I have to point this out - makes sense because they do not identify as feminine. Every time this topic comes up in left/liberal space, there’s a barrage of comments about how “men are dumb and insecure, why dont they just dress up like pretty girls - wouldn’t that be fun?” Which is so weird coming from a place that constantly talks about affirming peoples’ genders.

      Like, imagine you are talking to your friend who is a trans woman. Would you tell them “ugh, but you’d look so handsome in a suit with a short haircut. You have such a nice jawline - you should highlight it by growing out a beard!” Wouldnt that be really fucking weird? Wouldnt it make literally no sense at all, given this individual’s chosen gender identity? Wouldn’t it be considered quite rude and offensive to try to pressure someone into fitting your preference for their gender expression, rather than their own?

      Anyway, off topic. The point is, men have all sorts of options at their disposal, but most of these things are designed not to be noticed. The masculine role is to look good, but not flashy. To be put together, but not look like you tried to hard or care too much about your appearance. This is because what men are supposed to bring to the table are skills, resources, and personality. An overemphasis on appearance on the part of a man is seen as trying to get ahead or gain status through superfluous means - advancing without contributing to the group or gaining the friendship and approval of those around them. And this is seen as in poor taste, and is frowned upon. So as a man, if you want to enhance your appearance, you should only do it just enough that it can’t be noticed - or just enough that you look a bit more stylish or put together than the other men around you.

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      1 day ago

      I think shoe lifts are more common than you’d think, we’ve had a couple of major politicians accused of wearing them, but it’s kinda like hair implants, you’ve gotta be pretty insecure to get them in the first place (I’ve tried shoe lifts, they’re awful over maybe an inch), so they’re too insecure to talk about it either.

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        13 hours ago

        I used to have a 1.5" leg length difference, so I had to wear a big lift in one of my shoes throughout middle and part of high school as I had a few surgeries to slowly fix the difference. It was a major pain, and I often rolled my ankle in gym class and sports.

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        21 hours ago

        Women in heels, wearing makeup, having a skincare routine, picking clothes that flatter their figure, getting their hair done: they’re having fun and expressing themselves!

        Men wearing shoe lifts, getting hair plugs: what insecure losers.

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          15 hours ago

          I definitely phrased that poorly. Getting hair plugs isn’t insecure, but often it’s insecurity that drives men to get it and definitely causes them to not talk about it afterwards.

  • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
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    19 hours ago

    When one woman tried to contact me from what my man brain thinks could be some sort of attempt at a date, she listed out going to the gym, music, cooking, and my eyes almost wanted to roll into my skull.

    I went for it anyway, didn’t really date, just investigated the person and talked normally.

    She raised too many red flags and my reaction was fuck no!

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      1 hour ago

      Care to share more details? Gym, cooking and music just sound super generic, but maybe I’m already too old to get some cues

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    19 hours ago

    That’s a lot.

    Hey, at least I got to experience a bad marriage. I can take comfort in the fact that if I die now, I didn’t have to exaggerate anything close to that lol