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I heard that Carbon14 was an efficient solution
Currently watching a cringe dating show and I need to yeet a few off my chest:
Guys: For the love of God, ASK HER QUESTIONS. Awkward silence? Ask her about her family. She is asking about you? Ask about her passions. Her last hobbies. Everyone loves talking about themselves. If you like a girl, make her talk and she will like you.
For anybody: See someone cute at school? At the gym? Strike up convo about literally anything - “Oh damn nice shoes, where did you buy them?” - Feed this and later ask for their Insta. Instagram is public enough people will give it out, but private enough you can follow up in DMs later
While dating: Do things to make him/her happy. Don’t expect anything back. Do their chores. Buy them a gift. Take them on a surprise date. Be happy when they’re happy.
“Ask me a fucking question” song is so real for women https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/s/Z83qa5e4yp
Seriously get to know the person, before attempting to date them. You never really know who someone is.
In all honesty, don’t put a title on it, would be my tip.
Why not put a title on it? If you really like the person, enjoy the partnership, it’s been a while, you want to be exclusive, you want to introduce them around? Whats the harm of a title if you’re both excited about what it’s becoming?
Unless your goal is to just get laid, don’t pretend to be anybody but who you are. If your date isn’t happy hanging out with your real self, there’s no future in that relationship.
Talking to women is the same as talking to men. Treat them like people
And if you need to be told to treat women like people, maybe start with developing some friendships with no romantic interest or future. Social connections with no pressure will help.
It will be easy once you find the right person to date.
Very few people are properly compatible with each other, and sure, good small talk skills and general “dating” abilities will keep you dating someone for longer - but why prolong the suffering if it didn’t already click naturally?
That being a “nice guy” isn’t a selling point, it’s the bare fucking minimum.
That the older you get, the easier it is to date if you’re in good shape and you know how to listen.
So don’t think it’s all over for you just because dating may be difficult right now.
When I was in my 20’s and 30’s, I was in decent shape, but pretty average looking. But at that age there are a LOT of people in decent shape who are above average looking. So lots of competition.
Hit my 40’s, still in pretty good shape. Hair is a mix of gray and dark. Suddenly 30-year old women are asking me out.
I haven’t changed my attitude. Haven’t changed my income. Haven’t changed my personality. Haven’t changed my location.
I’m in my 50’s now, and I get laid more than ever. I’m in an open relationship with my current GF. She just has to “approve” of the girls I date.
I 100 percent think that it’s because most people in my age-range are fat as fuck, and unhealthy.
Some women like older guys for stability (I’m not racing cars or going to bars every fucking night, I’m easy to reach, like to chill, etc), and since I’m in shape, I’m suddenly popular.
And I’m not even in THAT great of shape: https://sh.itjust.works/post/27861648
Yeah, I work out and stay lean, but when I’m wearing a shirt, you don’t look at me and go, “wow, that dude works out!” It’s really that I’m not overweight, so that sets me apart.
This isn’t a humble brag. I legit have a face like a foot: i.e. not that great looking, but functional.
It comes down to just that I’m not fat, have stability, own a house, and I’m not a serial killer. That’s fucking it.
So depending on your age, just hang in there. It gets easier.
And for more immediate tips: Listen, and know how to be comfortable with small talk. Also makes the rest of your social life easier too.
