I don’t know honestly at this point I’ve stopped asking questions
I think my version of hell is never ending small talk with distant relatives/acquaintances.
Ohh, you made me remember that. And also never-ending flood of “Did you finally do your driving license?” is my personal hell
Well, did you?
We are the same person
Yep, I still work at the same job. Nope, I don’t have any new hobbies. Yep, my life is literally the exact same as the last time we talked two years ago. We have nothing in common, it’s fine if we just kinda stop talking now
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Friend is trying to start a conversation and catch up, “Me” is being weirdly antisocial about the whole thing.
Like, if you dislike this person that much, tell them you don’t want to be their friend any more, instead of suffering inside at how much you hate interacting with them, and leading them on.
That’s a weird take on this. Not liking or being good at small talk does not equate with disliking the person. It certainly doesn’t mean you “hate interacting with them”.
Talking to a friend you haven’t seen in a while about what’s new in your life is basically the opposite of "small talk’. I can empathize with those kind of social interactions being hard for some people, but it’s a social skill that’s worth either practicing or finding alternative paths to accomplish if you want to make and keep friends.
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Sure, but I wouldn’t really find the process of starting the conversation to find that out “small talk”. Even if there’s not a lot new most of the time, to me small talk has to be the kind of banal and meaningless conversations that basically never lead into those ‘real’ ones. How’s the weather, what about that local sports team, did you see someone bought that house/building/store down the road, etc.
I think the complicated thing is there are people you don’t really know, acquaintances, where the generic “how’s the wife and kids” is small talk, because they don’t actually really care, it’s just a generic greeting thing. But a friend asking that is different, imo.
When you masturbate all day wearing a helmet, that simple “What’s up?” can be quite painful.
If it is small talk depends on your answers. If they are flippant like the examples given above, then they are small talk. But it can also give a jumping off point to talk about whatever you have on your mind.
I think the “Me” was saying that they’ve done literally nothing new or interesting and has nothing to answer the question with. The distress is from thinking about how little they are doing and feeling pressure to admit that to their friend, transforming a light conversation to a heavy one.
That our I’ve been up to nothing I’m willing to talk about or admit…
Look small talk is all well and good but don’t keep pressing for info on what I’ve been up to because telling you all about how I’ve been spending most of my days as a puddle of self hatred on the couch doesn’t make for good small talk
Just start with the topic you want to talk about. I would never message someone with small talk nonsense like “what’s up” or “how’s it going”, etc, etc.
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Or, ok, hear me out now, you could have an actual conversation with someone. This whole trend of “I’m an introvert” is getting annoying
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