Hey guys, I moved away from home and I miss it every day.
Is anyone in the same position or had the same experience and what helped? Now that we bought the house and have a debt I can’t easily get back to where I came from in the near future. Lucky enough though it’s only a 8 minute drive (the town I use to live in is about 5 miles away from where I live now).
I think a big part of my thoughts circling is that I grew up in the other town and know all the people and in the town I now live in I barely know anyone… I can’t explain they aren’t unfriendly, infact most are welcoming and friendly, but have different interests than I do.
My old town had a nice lake that was a 5 minute walk. Now I can’t even walk to the lake anymore and even by bike it is about 30 minutes away.
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Forgive my ignorance…but if it’s only an 8 minute drive, why can’t you continue to visit your old haunts?
8 minute drive is still quite close. I’m 45 min from my first place, much harder to get to.
8 minute drive what in the fuck
I bet it will get better over time. Keep socializing and learing new things. The lake might be more of a journey but there could be other interesting things you haven’t discovered close by.
It’ll never be quite the same and it’s okay to miss where you’ve been. But a different place isn’t neccesarily a bad place.
I moved to a small town in northern Ontario and the only thing that made it better was moving back. God what a depressing place. The only thing that helped was therapy. I’m sorry OP.
I am 24 hours and 2 flights away from my hometown. I miss it every single day. I’m “stuck” in the new city till I can pay off my mortgage, at the very least. I try to make the most of what’s here and just remind myself of all the reasons why I moved in the first place.
Sounds like it’s time to start searching for things in your town that align with your interests and meet people doing that, or perhaps start talking with these friendly people and start probing them about these hobbies you don’t share.
You can’t really continue the old ways in a new place, you have to meet at a middle point. You also can’t expect this strange new place to cater to you when you’re technically the outsider with a different viewpoint. Acclimate, take it as a good chance to branch out, and eventually start introducing your own views and ideas otherwise you’ll just keep walling yourself off.
start probing them about these hobbies you don’t share.
Want to emphasize this. A lot of things that sound kind of boring in the abstract, are actually a lot of fun when you’re doing them with other people.
