• originalfrozenbanana@lemm.ee
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    5 months ago

    I used to think that and tell my wife that. She told me she wears makeup to feel all sorts of things: strong, assertive, sexy, dignified, powerful, invisible, whatever. Who am I to tell her she shouldn’t use eyeliner to feel strong when she’s got a big meeting at work? If you like makeup live your life

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      5 months ago

      Sounds like smokers who say that cigarettes calm them down.

      Smoking doesn’t relieve anxiety, not smoking creates it. Same thing applies for people who say they feel unattractive w/o cosmetics.

      Outside of something like art performances, there’s no reason for anyone to ever wear makeup

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        5 months ago

        As someone who militantly refuses to wear it to work, I appreciate it as an artistic and stylistic choice. It’s never a tool to hide my face or imperfections but rather to express myself at times. And yes sometimes it makes me feel powerful, much in the same way a dress cut just right for my body makes me feel powerful or wearing steel toe boots into a business meeting makes me feel powerful.

        The problem is the expectation of it. If you can’t treat people with respect whether or not we wear it that’s on you.