• PlasticExistence@lemmy.world
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    • It’s possible to make no errors and still lose.

    • Some people are dealt a worse hand in life than others and some people are better at playing their hand than others, so don’t assume you know why people are the way they are.

    • Patient compassion will never make you look like a jerk, but snap judgements will.

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    1. Be comfortable in your own skin.
    2. Know why you have boundaries, and keep the good ones.
    3. They either want you to listen, or to help. They rarely want both.
    4. It’s only a “Teaching Moment” if they want to be taught. Otherwise you’re just annoying.
    5. Try not to confuse politeness for friendship.
    6. Chew each bite of food into a paste before swallowing, with your eating utensil on the table or the hand meal out of your hand.
    7. The true you is the you that you do when no one’s watching. (See #1…)
    8. A happy life is 51% happy. Settle for nothing less, strive for something sustainably more.
    9. If you’re feeling depressed take a step back and make sure you haven’t accidentally surrounded yourself with assholes.
    10. Only ever brush and floss the teeth you want in your head when you’re old.
  • rippersnapper@lemm.ee
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    Nobody is coming to save you. Nobody. If you want help, ask. If you don’t want to ask, learn to save yourself.

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    Don’t waste your time keeping toxic “friends” around. People who exhibit behaviors that demonstrate a low maturity level at an age where they could/should have grown out of it twice aren’t going to by the time they drive you insane.

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    When life brings you to the point where you cannot sweat the small stuff anymore, it’s liberating and you better keep it as a habit. I did.

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      I’ll never forget the day I realized I was just exhausted at being angry all the time. I was holding onto so many grudges, something my mom does.

      It took me down a path or learning why I was so mad at everything and what to do to fix that.

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    Just because someone love you doesn’t mean they will treat you even close to civil.

    Some people truly are that bad. They can look like a normal person but in reality can not be redeemed. It’s not a communication issue,you don’t need to work harder. These people ARE the problem. When you live with normal people for your life , you can’t even comprehend that people like that are real.

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    In north America we have a legal system not a justice system.

    Cost me over 4000$ and 10 years of my time.

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    Lean in to arguments that piss you off but that you have trouble verbalizing your position in. 9 times out of 10, you walk away able to better articulate your position, 1 time in 10 you end up changing it.

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    Work friends very rarely turn into real friends, learnt this after covering, changing many shifts only to be left out of staff nights out etc, and when I put my foot down and stopped being a doormat for them found myself jobless and friendless, never let it happen since though and much happier.