Context: I currently have a back injury and as such my sleep schedule has been destroyed. There are days that I simply cannot get comfortable no matter where I sit/lie.
The other night I was restless and couldn’t get comfortable but was feeling tired. I wanted to brew myself a cup of tea but as luck would have it we had run out of fill-able tea bags. I pulled out the metal tea infusers and found that due to an improper cleaning at last use and who knows how long they had been sitting idle they were absolutely disgusting. Some had mold spots and one appeared to be rusting (how aluminum rusts I don’t know).
I REALLY wanted my tea so I busted out my cleaning tools and got to work. She woke up to use the restroom and heard me in the kitchen and made it a point to call me out for being weird and that no one in their right mind would be doing what I was doing.
Is that a fair assessment? I only spent about 50 minutes cleaning them.
Out of context, that’s not normal.
In your context, there is no normal, but your actions were rational.
Hope you recover quickly, friend, and get the cup of tea you deserve.
Yeah it’s not “normal” in the sense that it’s probably only happened a couple of times in history, but there’s nothing wrong witht he though process. Although 50 minutes to clean the infusers is a real long time, but if you had no other option, might as well
Depending on how nasty/corroded they were, I could see spending that long at it. Especially using 3am logic.
Daytime logic may have been “I’m going to clean one, and order more teabags and a new strainer right now”.
So you’ve stumbled into ADHD through the side door eh?
Yep from reading other replies that looks a bit like that 🤣
Fifty fucking minutes of cleaning for a cuppa?
I do all sorts of things at 3am too, thanks to my awful circadian rhythm. As long as it wasn’t you who woke her, you can do what you want. Awake is awake, no matter the time of day. Just be mindful of your surroundings.
I may or may not occasionally get super fixated on tasks I’m doing. The only reason I know it was fifty minutes was because I listened to the entire Sleep Token album “This Place Will Become Your Tomb”.
You can bet your ass that those steepers are nice and shiny clean.
It’s not normal, but it’s not not normal.
You have autism. It’s cool though. Keep doing your thing.
Is that why I find this completely relatable? From the description it sounds totally normal
It is not typical, expected behavior by most peoples’ standards, partly because the majority of people at that time of night are sleeping.
You’d be hard pressed to find support for this as being normal behavior. What’s important is whether or not normal matters? If it’s considered criticism, why? Is she being awoken by your behavior? If so, then that’s probably warranted. Otherwise, if it’s just a characterization of what you’re doing, so what?
I mean there is being restless and there is being loud and starting a project at 3am.
I’m not saying you’ve done a bad thing here but yeah you are blurring trust line of weird behavior.
Lack of sleep can make you do weird things. It’s not keeping anyone wake, it’s not hurting you or anyone. Enjoy your tea.
A dremel is not a quiet tool. Don’t they spin at some obscene RPM?
Depends, some have adjustable rpm. Still they usually aren’t to quiet, but when the partner doesn’t wake up by the sound, I see no problem.
If you have back pain this may not be the right activity for you. Scrubbing g while bend over a sink. I don’t care about the time but the activity doesn’t help your injury.
Absolutely understood but when you are uncomfortable sitting in any position, or lying down, again, in any position, sometimes standing is the only option.
It probably would have been weirder if she came out and just saw me quietly standing in the middle of the room.
May I suggest light yoga. Something like sun salutation I have back issues too and this have helped a lot.
Yeah that’s pretty fucked. Who uses a brass toothbrush?
How else do you clean those pesky gums off of your teeth and expose ALL of the pearly whites?
Given the circumstances you have described it doesnt seem that far out of the “normal” ballpark to me. I’ve seen worse and lived with worse. Maybe not strictly normal but no big deal
Nobody in their right mind would be awake at those times… when the body would cooperate.
My wife goes to the attic to do the laundry when she can’t sleep. However, I sleep trough anything (even when they blown up an ATM on the parking lot behind the house) so I’m fine with that.
That your wife found you cleaning after she woke to go to the toilet, I see no problem. Having back issues keeping you awake isn’t normal and on the pther hand, when you look around at what is ‘normal’, would you want to be like that?
Maybe next time skip the powertools, but enjoy your tea when you can’t enjoy your sleep.
I’m sorry to hear you married a muggle.
Whether it’s normal or not should not be on anyone’s list of concerns, unless they’re trying to fit in through deception.
If my wife or I caught each other doing something like that, our instinct would not be to complain, and certainly not by suggesting there’s anything wrong with being weird.
I’d much rather be weird than boring.
Not normal. But also not a problem. You couldn’t sleep, needed something to occupy yourself.
