I’ve always been terrified of dancing in public cause I can’t dance for shit but at the same time it was always something I’ve wanted to do. Last friday I went to a small party with coworkers and after drinking a lot I, for the first time, decided to join them and dance. Drunk me is just as bad at dancing as sober me but didn’t really care lol. It was fun and I had a great time. That’s all really, just felt like sharing a small victory. Maybe I’ll pick up dancing someday.
Congratulations on the small victory!
Hell yeah!
It wasn’t until my 30s until I was comfortable dancing.
It helped to have a partner with you. Then you can go, “Let’s just dance weirdly” and then laugh while making moves on the dance floor.
If you have no partner, alcohol is also a excellent friend!
My wife did that to me once.
She even had the guts to do it on the first song of our own wedding.
Felt like a proper fool.
I used to think this way, till I actually learned a little bit on how to dance and then how to let go. Don’t wanna look like a fool? Learn to two step first, then pick up something simple if you can. Do the “instructions” dances like the electric slide and the hustle. Then learn to use your hips.
Learning to let go was harder, but I found it easier to embrace silliness. I decided I could look dumb on accident or on purpose, and decided on the latter, so did “sweet moves” that would make people laugh - throwing in old disco moves and such (the bus driver).
Then something happened I didn’t expect: I actually got decent at dancing. Turns out getting out of your own head is a great way to get loose, and suddenly you’re doing your thing and enjoying it, and you’re willing to try out other moves that actually do look like you might know something.
Point is, dancing is for everyone, just gotta find the right headspace (and the right music, it’s still hard for anyone to dance to music they don’t enjoy imo).
dancing is for everyone, just gotta find the right headspace
This is exactly it. I used to hate dancing because I felt that I couldn’t dance and everyone would look at me and laugh. It took a bit to realize that literally no one who is dancing is judging the other people around them. They’re just out there moving around and having a good time. You can literally walk on to a dance floor and just vaguely move around a bit bouncing your head, and you’ll fit right in.
dancing is for everyone, just gotta find the right headspace (and the right music, it’s still hard for anyone to dance to music they don’t enjoy imo).
I disagree. If it implies forcing one self and a lot of work, it definitely isn’t for everyone. On top of that, some people (me) just refuse to dance, because I find it stupid and not even funny.
Have you ever stepped out of your comfort zone? Have you ever tried learning a new skill that you’re not a natural at? That’s life my dude.
Yes, I have stepped many many times out of my comfort zone. Thank you for you concern. However, I consider dancing such a stupid, meaningless thing that even my stupidest part plainly refuse to even think of learning it. It’s not like it is a useful skill anyway.
I have a hard time believing this mostly because of your attitude towards it. Is it stupid and that’s why you don’t like it? Or you don’t like it, and therefore it must be stupid? Seems like the latter. I’d also disagree that it’s not a useful skill, like any soft or social skill it has its place and it can be surprisingly useful in certain circumstances. For instance, is it useful to be able to impress your preferred gender of person? Or to make them laugh? Dancing can definitely help with that.
When I was younger I thought golf was a useless “dumb” sport, I’m now kicking myself for not picking it up a decade ago because it’s extremely useful for networking and building/maintaining relationships.
is it useful to be able to impress your preferred gender of person
I don’t need to “impress” anybody. And if someone would try to “impress” me by dancing, lol, good luck with that. And frankly I prefer to avoid people that love dancing. So I don’t need (not even want) to maintain these kind of relationships.
Let’s stop here. I’m not going to change my mind on this topic. Ever.
You can claim that, you may even believe it, but that’s all the first steps of dating someone really are. Maybe you don’t do it with dancing, maybe you dazzle them with your vast intellect, but it’s the same thing.
Feel free to stop whenever you’d like lol no one is going to force you to dance like no one is going to force you to reply 😉
Sadly, the “right headspace” for me involves either several drinks in quick succession, or it being my wedding.
I mean, I do think it goes along with indulging in something, bit of booze and weed, or stronger on occasion depending on the kind of party. I can do some dancing sober but it loses it’s appeal much faster.
I do know people that love dancing sober as a bird, I just don’t think that’s gonna be everybody, or even most people. It’s like any social event, a lot of people are gonna want at least one or two drinks to let the walls come down a bit.
Lot of people though that flat out won’t put themselves out there and I think that stinks for them, you never know what can come from getting outside of your comfort zone. For me, I never would’ve gotten together with my wife if I wasn’t willing to dance, and a few years before we met I was on the “I hate dancing” train for a while, so I know where some of that comes from.
Doesn’t balance well with how I’m trying to deal with my alcoholism.
That is fair.
Any resources on learning to use your hips?
Shakira lol and that’s only kind of a joke, bc she’s amazing at using em. I’d suggest watching YouTube or piped videos, and just watching dancers. Latin dance in particular emphasizes it, so may want to look that direction first. The easiest Latin dance to learn is merengue as that’s just a two step with some extra hip movement that is easy to pick up by watching.
Just slam some tequila. Then you won’t care if you look like Elaine while you’re dancing.
Wait! You’ve seen her dance?
Can relate. I vehemently hate dancing, to the point I can get upset even if someone just suggests it to me.
You should pick up dancing…
GFTO, lol
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