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Dinner.
Frozen or take them out. Take the family out. A gift certificate to a local restaurant.
You can almost never go wrong with food. It’s exhausting for someone to have to figure out food for a family every day of the week.
People tend to express care in the ways that they would like to receive it.
Do you notice your friend giving gifts to other people? Maybe instead, she does small acts of kindness, or maybe she compliments people freely? Sometimes it’s as simple as quality time.
When someone is going through a tough time, they might feel very alone. Offering to listen without trying to solve the problem (trust me, they’ve already thought of all the options) is such a generous act.
I kinda rambled… hopefully that makes sense and good luck. You’re a good friend.
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You both sound like wonderful people.
Flowers
Sugar free candy?
🧸
Case of favorite sparkling water
I dunno I’m spit ballin here
Flowers. Even a cheap bunch from the grocery looks nice for several days and reminds you that someone thought of you.
Is she a tea-drinker? Maybe a bag of some really nice tea from a proper tea shop, herbal or otherwise. My experience is that tea drinkers really appreciate a nice artisan-style brew. It’s an understated but thoughtful gesture.
When my wife is in a bad mood I try handing her random objects like a stick from outside. [Wife] you can’t be mad, you now have an anti-grumpy stick
*I swear this actually works. We are a strange couple
The smallest thing I can think about is probably one of those rice grains with a poem written on it.
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A nice, somewhat mid tier soap or moisturizer gift set. Make sure it’s specific enough like face cream so it’s clearly a self care or treat yo self thing, vs a “you smell thing”, trick is to add a note letting her know she matters and deserves some me time.
Chatgpt suggested: “I wanted to share a little something to lift your spirits. Remember, it’s okay to take a moment for yourself – you more than deserve it. Know that you’re appreciated and never alone in this.”
If you found out she has gestational diabetes from anyone else but her, and that she’s having a hard time, let it be. If she told you herself in an honest moment of comfort, tell her “I’m so sorry. That sucks.” And let her vent. The last thing she wants is for anyone to make a big deal about it, solve her problems, or choose her diet.
Bring in donuts again. Seriously. She’s an adult and can choose to eat them.
Bring in a more health conscious option. Once again, she can choose to eat it or not.
You’re trying to find an option when most likely you shouldn’t know about her personal health issues in the first place. Unless you have a very close relationship that you aren’t letting us know about, you shouldn’t be trying to figure out something to give her to make her feel better. She could very easily feel ostracized for her pregnancy in the first place. Employers arent super cool with pregnancies, let alone pregnancies that are in any magnitude more difficult.
What makes will make her feel better is a coworker that respects her space and private health matters. Don’t treat her as special. Treat her as human.
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Write a note to let that person know how valuable and wonderful a person that they are. Using specific examples is good. This isn’t the time for vague platitudes. I would tie any gift in with how much they have done for others, and how deserving they are.
Book/s to read to the kids?
I found the “5 love/appreciation languages” to be one HELL of an eye-opener:
It hadn’t dawned on me that trinkets/gifts could be a primary love-language, for anyone, ever,
AND it explained the behaviour of some people I knew.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages
Read the 5 types on there, & see IF the person you’re interested in helping has some distinct lopsidedness on those 5 ways.
THEN figure out what to do to help 'em.
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Does it have to be food-related?
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Leave her alone. If you’re so unfamiliar with this person that you’re asking strangers on the internet for “gift” ideas to help with “a rough time” just stop. Whole thing is screaming immensely inappropriate.
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Based on that wall of text imma double down on “leave her alone.”
Yep, you’re right. Fuck me for wanting to do something nice for someone that I care about. I was thinking about killing myself earlier this week and maybe I’ll go through with it now. That will be the best gift to the planet…dunno why I hadn’t thought about it that way. Thank you for giving me the push that I needed.
Neat.
Finally this place is starting to feel like Reddit used to!
Glad I could be of service. Have you considered downloading the Reddit App for more content of unhinged weirdo antagonizes likely spambot (who is who can you tell ???)
And another thing!
An 8 ball is always appreciated.
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