Is it normal not to care about your friends, uncle, cousins or anyone? Like, you have friends, but you couldn’t care less about them and don’t value them. If they have kids, you don’t care about their well-being either. Basically could not give less of a fuck about anyone. You don’t care about your friends or family members at all. If they are sick, you don’t care; if they die, you don’t care. Is this normal?
No. Obviously not.
Doesn’t this fit the bill for a sociopath?
This would be called Emotinal Detachment or Emotional Blunting. It is associated with several mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and schizophrenia, and it can be developed as a coping mechanism for a stressful or abusive childhood or past. It can also develop as a side effect for some medications, so it could be worth looking info a change in prescriptions if you think that could be relevant.
That is to say, it is an abnormal mental state, but you are not unique in this mindset. You should strongly consider reaching out to a mental health professional to see if you can work on this as it is likely to lead to more isolation and a worsening of your overall well-being.
No. I don’t miss people while they are alive - I don’t need to talk to them or see them, I know they are alive, and don’t miss them somehow, yes friends, yes even my parents and siblings and grown kids, I love them but if I know they are ok that seems to be enough.
But when they are sick or hurting I care. I want them happy and healthy and if I can help I want to.
And when they die I miss them, so much.
Not sure what normal is, but no that doesn’t sound normal. How do you feel about your own self? Do you care for your own body and mind?
Has this always been the case, or is it a new thing? If always, some of the other comments have some suggestions around neurodivergence. If new, it might be due to stress - if I am drained from work and basic household maintenance and just feeding myself, I have no brain cells left to care about anything else. The caring comes back if I manage to work in more rest time per week.
One of my coworkers says she has no fucks left when she feels like that. “Sorry, all my fucks have already been given.”
It’s fine.
Your feelings or lack of them is valid. If you’re getting through life and are happy without giving a shit about others then good for you. If it’s harming you or others then you have a problem. If you’re unhappy because you feel like you’re missing something in your life then do something about it, but don’t let others tell you how to feel.
No definitely not. Like, it’s fine if you don’t care for some uncle who’s kind of a dick and who you see once a year. But if you care for no-one but yourself then something is out of the norm. Might not be something you can help, but it’s probably a good idea to run this by a professional.
Personally I’m kinda extreme in the opposite direction. I can feel intense empathy towards inanimate objects. I’ll feel sad for the slightly fucked apple at the supermarket because no-one will buy it. I struggle to watch movies with too emotional plots because I start to experience those emotions myself intensely.
I care more for other species than I do my own. I just don’t see humans as important as they think they are. The trolley problem isn’t difficult for me; either selection works. And yes, the misanthropy is real.
But if you don’t care about anything at all, not animals, not plants, not even the universe, then you don’t love yourself. That’s when it’s time for therapy.
thats not normal. its normal if you dont care about the person, because they did something to hurt or that you dislike, or look a certain way(eventhough this is a very negative thing to do its not abnormal in the sense you dont feel anything). apathetic seems to be a mental illness.
Also your alias is grimreaper. Why do i feel like you are on your way to becoming a mass murderer or a school shooter…
Your parents were treating you badly?
Sounds like a mental illness that a professional should help with.
I’ve been there. Reasons for this might be different depending on who you are. For me, I’d been hurt by the ones that I loved, and subconsciously put up a wall to protect myself so I was “prepared” in case I would get hurt again. On the flipside I also couldn’t be my most authentic self, so I felt a lot more distanced when being with friends and family. For me, a lot of talking, therapy, and books helped me tremendously, but I’m still on a journey.
So yes, it’s normal, and it can get better.
I’m beginning to really not care about my brother and I feel like an absolute piece of shit for feeling this way.
He’s fallen down a rabbit hole of conspiracy psuedo-science and has been treating our mum like shit these last few months. Gas lighting her, not letting her see his kids, shit like that.
thats different than OP, not be able to have empathetic connection with anyone for no reason at all. your doing it in response to a negative reaction from the person.
Yeah fair point
No, you need to go to therapy and talk these feelings through with a professional.
I’ve been in a similar emotional state and with therapy I realized my ‘dgaf’ attitude was the only way I could keep living after a traumatic incident I experienced as a child, twenty-five years ago. I had been forcing my self away from having any meaningful relationships out of fear that they would make me feel bad, like I did on that day. Before therapy I had forgotten it had ever happened, but afterwards I realized so much about myself and it all just clicked into place; all of my strange behaviours, my anti-social tendencies, my mentality of not giving a fuck about you or anyone else. It was all to avoid negative emotions. I wish I had gone, or been able to go to therapy a lot sooner. I would be much happier then I am now if I did, but it matters not because I did go, and I talked things out; I worked out the cause of all this pain and
healedstarted healing.Ask yourself, when was the last time you cried?
I do care about people, but I have to admit the only time I cry is when their pets die.
I was partly the same. I only cared about my pets. The last time I had cried before therapy was when my cat died, and before that when my dog died ~10 years prior.
I cry to music also