*I stitched on the Jurassic park

Lil bebe comin in to this world with a grip of bra’dfathers

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    OOP either doesn’t know or doesn’t care that labor can take hours, and is completely unpredictable. There’s also the issue of finding a delivery room with space to accommodate five observers, in addition to the other people who absolutely need to be in the room.

    This isn’t necessarily a bad idea, but the practicalities are significant.

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      It is definitely a bad idea because such a trip, especially in an unpredictable setting like this, can turn upside down real quick and the last thing a woman giving birth needs is some guys freaking out and needing the personnels attention. If you really respect the act of giving birth you should minimize the risks of it going wrong (you could argue that theyre getting paid and its their choice to take the risk, but thats kind of like saying sex workers could do an other job if they dont enjoy it). The same goes for people who want to visit in the first few days after birth, just because theyre “so excited for the baby they cant wait to see it”. Think of the woman who went through hell a few hours ago and probably feels like a truck hit her in the face right now. Leave her the f alone. If they invite you, cool.

      Source: became a dad a few days ago.

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        They can watch video of live births at anytime without all the effort of coordination. There are countless videos of women giving birth if a video will suffice.

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        Birth is pretty traumatic for babies to begin with.

        You start off on this dark, warm room. Floating in a little bubble of fluid. All you’ve ever known.

        Then all of a sudden the bubble is gone. It’s slowly draining. Either it popped on its own, or worse, somebody poked it with a crochet hook (I know the real medical tool isn’t a crochet hook but that’s legit what it looks like).

        You’re squeezing headfirst through a hole smaller in size than a CD. And as soon as they see your smushy little skull they are putting a sticker on it to watch your heart rate.

        It’s bright, it’s cold, it’s dry, and it’s loud. The complete polar opposite of everything you’ve ever known. You have to start breathing and then you can’t stop or you die, but nobody tells you that right away. Someone slaps your butt and someone else cuts your blood tube to mom.

        No wonder they come out screaming.

        And that’s a typical, uncomplicated birth. Let’s not talk about suction cups or forceps or cesareans.

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          My daughter came out grey & floppy. It was (probably) only about a minute before she started crying, but man it felt like an eternity.