• jve@lemmy.world
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    22 hours ago

    why risk it?

    Because there’s almost no risk involved.

    So why risk it, if you’re going to potentially be making the situation suck for the other person, I’m wondering

    Answers to this question, and more, are provided in some of the links provided.

    The chances of making “the situation suck” are exceedingly small. The chances it “goes well” are quite high. A couple friendly words between strangers. A story to tell later.

    Of particular note

    His curiosity led to a series of experimentsrevealing that train and bus commuters who interacted with other passengers experienced a more pleasant ride — even when they believed they would prefer the solitude of, say, reading a book.

    It is fear that the person sitting next to us won’t enjoy talking to us that makes us keep to ourselves, Epley found. But when we do talk to each other, those social interactions with strangers tend to be both less awkward and more enjoyable than most people predict.

    You seem to completely discount this possibility, while simultaneously overblowing the risk.

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      21 hours ago

      It just seems a bit selfish to try and “connect” in a sotuation where they can’t leave. I get that it is your thing but at least on a plane it would be bettee to just chill for the duration of it. After all nothing negative about that, they might try to connect with you if they’re up for it

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        21 hours ago

        There may be a selfish component to it. Doesn’t make it a selfish act.

        I get that it’s your thing

        It’s my thing after I read a few of these papers (you can find the links, and read them if you like, they’re in my other comments) and started giving it a shot.

        it would be bettee to just chill for the duration of it.

        Yes, you have made it very clear that for you, you believe that this is the case.

        The data show that a lot of people feel this way before they try it, but are pleasantly surprised after.

        After all nothing negative about that, they might try to connect with you if they’re up for it

        Nothing negative about what? “Being chill?” I think you’ll find that I’m pretty chill.

        You seem to think I’m nagging them for the duration, but as I’ve explained, it’s really more of creating an opening.

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          20 hours ago

          You won’t cause anything negative by just chilling during the flight. Meanwhile, by trying to connect, you might make someone’s travel worse. So if you value the fellow passengers, best move is not to risk it, at least not on the plane. Otherwise you’re just gambling with their mood, which seems a bit shitty.

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            16 hours ago

            So if you value the fellow passengers, best move is not to risk it

            There’s a lot of big assumptions built into how you think about risk if the only possible outcomes you can conceive of are negative.

            at least not on the plane

            Oh yes the plane. Because of the implication, right?

            I just feel bad that your outlook is so sad for all of this.

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              15 hours ago

              Well you won’t negatively affect them by not interacting with them. They are still free to talk to you, after all. The implication is a good one because they don’t know what sort of creep or angry person you might be and how you would react to rejection. You’re almost insisting on talking to the people on a situation you know might negatively affect them and where they are stuck in the situation and that just seems odd.

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                15 hours ago

                I feel like you’re just reiterating your last comment as though you didn’t read mine.

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                    13 hours ago

                    Would you care to address any of the articles with research and numbers that I claim back me up?

                    I see you don’t understand the mindset. I don’t believe you are trying to.