• jve@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    1
    ·
    21 hours ago

    There may be a selfish component to it. Doesn’t make it a selfish act.

    I get that it’s your thing

    It’s my thing after I read a few of these papers (you can find the links, and read them if you like, they’re in my other comments) and started giving it a shot.

    it would be bettee to just chill for the duration of it.

    Yes, you have made it very clear that for you, you believe that this is the case.

    The data show that a lot of people feel this way before they try it, but are pleasantly surprised after.

    After all nothing negative about that, they might try to connect with you if they’re up for it

    Nothing negative about what? “Being chill?” I think you’ll find that I’m pretty chill.

    You seem to think I’m nagging them for the duration, but as I’ve explained, it’s really more of creating an opening.

    • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      20 hours ago

      You won’t cause anything negative by just chilling during the flight. Meanwhile, by trying to connect, you might make someone’s travel worse. So if you value the fellow passengers, best move is not to risk it, at least not on the plane. Otherwise you’re just gambling with their mood, which seems a bit shitty.

      • jve@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        16 hours ago

        So if you value the fellow passengers, best move is not to risk it

        There’s a lot of big assumptions built into how you think about risk if the only possible outcomes you can conceive of are negative.

        at least not on the plane

        Oh yes the plane. Because of the implication, right?

        I just feel bad that your outlook is so sad for all of this.

        • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          15 hours ago

          Well you won’t negatively affect them by not interacting with them. They are still free to talk to you, after all. The implication is a good one because they don’t know what sort of creep or angry person you might be and how you would react to rejection. You’re almost insisting on talking to the people on a situation you know might negatively affect them and where they are stuck in the situation and that just seems odd.

          • jve@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            1
            ·
            15 hours ago

            I feel like you’re just reiterating your last comment as though you didn’t read mine.

              • jve@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                English
                arrow-up
                1
                ·
                edit-2
                13 hours ago

                Would you care to address any of the articles with research and numbers that I claim back me up?

                I see you don’t understand the mindset. I don’t believe you are trying to.

                • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  ·
                  11 hours ago

                  I don’t get how the articles “back you up” in this point

                  You’re almost insisting on talking to the people on a situation you know might negatively affect them and where they are stuck in the situation and that just seems odd.

                  What do the articles have to do with that?

                  • jve@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    English
                    arrow-up
                    1
                    ·
                    4 hours ago

                    That’s because you haven’t read them.

                    They have to do with the positive outcomes, which you continue to ignore, or treat as inconsequential.

                    A small chance of a negative outcome does not generally outweigh a good chance of a positive outcome.

                    youre almost insisting on talking

                    You insist on mischaracterizing my position. Asking somebody a question ir two is hardly as insisant as you keep making it out to be.

                    and that just seems odd

                    To you