I’m 15 weeks and 1 day pregnant today. I’m also young (18), so this wasn’t planned or expected. When my boyfriend’s parents found out, they asked for a paternity test. On my parents’ advice, I agreed to it. Even though I have nothing to hide, it still felt humiliating.
Because they are. The fact that there’s nothing for you to hide it’s what’s making it feel like that because your boyfriends parents don’t (want to) believe you.
All the best for you and your pregnancy! Meanwhile you can use the time and think of extra petty ways to send them the test results (e.g. frame them, make a reveal party, …).
While pettiness sounds awesome here, I’d argue against it. She may need to deal with these people for 18 years or more, depending on how the situation proceeds. Being petty now could lead to long-term animosity that is unneeded.
I say give them the paternity test, see how they react, then get petty if they continue being shitty.
So you are saying no one ever lies about cheating?
No one has ever been told to pay child support for a kid that isn’t theirs?
There is no reason to be petty. This is just parents looking out for their son. 18 years of child support is a ton of money, and that’s if the kid is healthy. If there is medical issues the amount jumps significantly if you are in the US.
Paternity tests should be automatic on all new borns.
I didn’t. That’s just not the point here. It’s about OPs point of view who came here as a not cheating person to talk about their feelings because their partners parents feel like OP may have cheated.
No matter the reasoning of the parents, that they assume OP may have done this is a totally understandable reason for OP to feel how they feel.
It’s not like you can go to work, trip and fall and get pregnant from that. So asking for this kind of test always comes with a lack of trust.
You take OPs words as the truth, no one has ever lied or bent the truth on the internet!
Not that I’m saying they are lying but you never know. The test will clear up any uncertainty and OP shouldn’t feel any shame about it
There’s no sense in answering these kind of questions in bad faith.