I’ve pretty much hit rock bottom and come to the conclusion that I can’t stay on my current trajectory. It’s already cost me one, if not two, relationships, and I’m tired of dating on hard mode. I’m worried I might be too far gone, so it would be immensely helpful to hear from someone who’s been in the same place and managed to turn things around.

I can manage a week or two with the power of self loathing but once the urges come back I’m really, and I mean really good at coming up with excuses.

  • humble_boatsman@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    a fatalistic view that I was “born this way” or that I’ve permanently damaged myself through decades

    Not an expert nor have I got my monkeys off my back but I would like to say watch out for this type of thinking. I have heard that addiction can be genetic but what is empowering is the opposite is true about how our minds can change once we have changed our situations. I’m referring to something called the elasticity of the mind. And I don’t just mean metaphysically. This is a measured change in the brain. So if you are looking for positive affirmations to keep you going this is a difficult one to realize because you do not even yet know how different you can be. But just try to imagine how exciting that is? Good luck.