I’m confused by the fuck/fight portion. Is it normal to want to fuck or fight every person who maintains eye contact? Have I been unknowingly threatening/coming into all of my work colleagues?
A lot of Zoomer/Alphagens have said in surveys that the perceive prolonged or maintained eye contact in a conversation as a sign of aggression or attraction. I was using hyperbolic language for brevity.
Its almost like neurotypicals just think they know what ‘normal’ body language is, when in actuality they all disagree about almost all of it, each have their own plethora of weird quirks and ideas, and its just that they assume their standard is correct, because they hardly ever consciously, actively think about or analyze body language.
Personally, maintaining eye contact during a conversation shows me that you’re actively paying attention and processing what I’m saying. I mean you might not actually be doing that, but I at least feel you are. And it’s a good sign. When I have some Alpha at work explain that bit about how their generation views that level of eye contact I audibly scoffed.
There’s a difference between respectlfully attentive eye contact (flits to other things occasionally, but refocuses), fighting eye contact (straight staring, tense facial expression), flirting eye contact (flits between eyes and lips, soft facial expression), and autistic eye contact (direct and unwavering eye contact that drills into your soul for seemingly no reason).
Most likely, everyone just knows (at least implicitly) that you are autistic.
I’m confused by the fuck/fight portion. Is it normal to want to fuck or fight every person who maintains eye contact? Have I been unknowingly threatening/coming into all of my work colleagues?
A lot of Zoomer/Alphagens have said in surveys that the perceive prolonged or maintained eye contact in a conversation as a sign of aggression or attraction. I was using hyperbolic language for brevity.
Oh no. I worked so hard to be able to maintain eye contact in conversations (autistic) and now I’m questioning it.
Its almost like neurotypicals just think they know what ‘normal’ body language is, when in actuality they all disagree about almost all of it, each have their own plethora of weird quirks and ideas, and its just that they assume their standard is correct, because they hardly ever consciously, actively think about or analyze body language.
Personally, maintaining eye contact during a conversation shows me that you’re actively paying attention and processing what I’m saying. I mean you might not actually be doing that, but I at least feel you are. And it’s a good sign. When I have some Alpha at work explain that bit about how their generation views that level of eye contact I audibly scoffed.
Yeah thats big ‘old man yells at clouds’ vibes.
Its not me that could be wrong, no, its the children.
Kids have different body language norms than me?
Pff, that’s stupid, my illogical feelings and inaccurate, non-universal heuristics are what’s important here.
There’s a difference between respectlfully attentive eye contact (flits to other things occasionally, but refocuses), fighting eye contact (straight staring, tense facial expression), flirting eye contact (flits between eyes and lips, soft facial expression), and autistic eye contact (direct and unwavering eye contact that drills into your soul for seemingly no reason).
Most likely, everyone just knows (at least implicitly) that you are autistic.