I’ve met this person and we texted for a while for a couple of weeks. I even asked if we could go out on our own to have a coffee together, and she accepted, but asked for some time to sort things out on her life (I know that she was studying for a difficult selection for a public position. Plus, she’s a single mom). But I realized that I was starting and maintaining our interactions every single time. So I decided to give her some space, just to see if she would talk back to me. A day became a week, which became a month, and no sign of her. Did I ghosted her inadvertently, or she wasn’t interested in the first place, or she’s probably having too much happening in her life and I should be more supportive?

  • IWW4@lemmy.zip
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    or she wasn’t interested in the first place,

    Well:

    I even asked if we could go out on our own to have a coffee together, and she accepted, but asked for some time to sort things out on her life

    So all I am hearing/seeing there is a no. You asked her out and turned you down and you have not heard from her in a month

    It is pretty clear to me she isn’t interested.

    Did you ghost her? Does that mattter?

    • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.org
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      Am I too autistic and missing something? If someone says yes and asks for time to sort some stuff out first, to me that means that they said yes and need some time to sort stuff out first?