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Cake day: May 23rd, 2024

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  • first of all, there are people that relate to you, and cherish you and love you. i was quite happy to see that most people here were supportive of you and overcoming this bad moment on your life (because that’s what it is, a moment. it won’t last forever). you have value in yourself and there’s no greater justification in living than knowing that you deserve to live and be who you are simply because you exist, and you are, period. you yourself amount to many important things and if people don’t value you for who you are, screw them, who weren’t able to cherish that beautiful complexity on yourself.

    that being said, you need help. and the first thing to tackle is, like others have said, overcoming your addiction. there are several ways of getting help on this: many community centers, even in the united states, keep narcotics anonymous groups on their premises. serious groups will have a way with providing you with medical assistance, which will be needed;

    • if, and only if, you are comfortable with going to a place of worship, they often receive meetings of n.a. groups, and serious priests, pastors, rabbis, imams, nuns and monks can give you some direction on where to find help without asking anything in exchange. stay away from sects such as scientology;
    • from there, you can get the psychological and psychiatric help that you need to better cope with the adhd, being able to live with it and improve your learning and social skills;
    • social services can help you find a job, qualification and help you if there’s any trouble;
    • take advantage of everything that’s free in order to better yourself, such as courses and books that are available at your local libraries;
    • and most importantly, a day at a time. you will find some difficulties, especially with divesting your old ways, but stand for yourself first and foremostly. some days will be harder than others. learn to forgive yourself and others for things that did not went right, but you don’t have to accept anyone back into your life if they didn’t changed their ways that have hurt you so much. here and there you will take falls, but find the strength to start over, and over, and over. you’re not perfect, but that’s ok! who is, anyway?





  • changing and expecting people to accept that change unconditionally.

    diametrically disagreeing with your partner on some important issue of your relationship and only mentioning it way after things got serious.

    bad hygiene (for olodumarè’s sake, bathe daily, and if possible brush your teeth at least twice a day).

    as mentioned before, being a jerk towards service providers and elderly without reason, and towards kids in general.






  • the first contact i had with linux back in mid-90’s brazil was with my isp’s login terminal, which displayed some arcane text reading “red hat linux version x.x”. after that, during my father’s final years working in bank of brazil he had to deal with cobra’s homemade distro in his workstations (cobra had developed an unix in the 80s that run on m68k’s, so no surprises here). it was an absolutely esoteric system to those who only knew the dos/windows 3.11 duo, since w95 only arrived in our country in numbers only in 96. the thing really caught on during the early to mid-2000’s, with faster and cheaper adsl connections, and with them, abundant knowledge and downloads available to any script kid.


  • me and most of the developing world have mixed feelings about the war in ukraine. at the very least it’s white people’s problems. at the limit we’re pissed by the west trying to rally us behind a country that stopped black people from leaving when the invasion came and that is receiving many times the amount of help that many of us have received during catastrophes, against a country that, wicked as it can be, never really messed with our internal affairs.

    that being said, this is war and russia cannot complain that it didn’t knew what was coming. deal with it (spoiler: they will).