Let’s say both the guy and girl make the same amount of money and are both good at and enjoy cooking and cleaning.
Would it be wrong for a guy to want the girl to give equal contribution financially to the relationship if he’s also willing and capable of contributing equally to domestic duties?
In this same scenario, would it be wrong for him to expect her to cook and clean if he’s expected to handle the financial aspects of the relationship?
Its wrong to use societal expectations to pressure your partner into taking on more than they are comfortable with. If you cant communicate your feelings, especially those around building a home together, the home will be dysfunctional.
Find something custom that both are you are happy with, try out new things, decide together what is fair. Not what your parents or grandparents or peer group think is fair… but the people building a home together.
Something doesn’t feel right? Ask for advice sure, use the advice to sort out for yourself why it doesn’t feel right. Communicate how you feel to your partner. Explain the burden and ask for support.