WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

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Cake day: December 31st, 2023

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  • I think most cis people don’t think much about their gender

    Of the 5 guys I’m closest to, I think three do seem to clearly value their masculinity. They express it in different ways and I don’t think they conceptualize it the same way trans people do and some of them probably don’t realize they do care about it.

    I tend to think gender is not just BS even if there are arbitrary elements, and I increasingly believe my gender identity ties into my biology in ways that make my gender not a choice but an immutable part of who I am

    I don’t disagree. My choice of “feel like” was intend to differentiate it from my beliefs and to avoid implying I was saying other ought to feel/think the same. I largely believe my negative feelings towards gender are likely a result of the gendered expectations pushed onto me because of my AGAB. At the very least, I do believe we need to abolish the prescriptive nature of gender.

    regardless, I would think a major reason to not date cis people is that they don’t understand our experiences - it’s interesting that didn’t come up for you, but maybe that’s because you don’t date or have sex

    That’s pretty much what I meant by saying I wouldn’t jive with them. I don’t think they need to be trans to understand though, but I don’t feel like those who strongly feel their AGAB could relate.
















  • I think most people when they hear the word ‘asexual’ think the person just means that they have a very low sex drive- not that they are totally and completely unable to feel sexual attraction.

    The reason I didn’t think I was ace is because my libido was annoyingly high. That said, asexuality is a spectrum. I’m honestly not sure where I am on that spectrum. But like, understanding what experiencing sexual attraction is like is difficult (not from a lack of trying - I’ve read dozens of people’s description with the purpose of trying to understand better).

    it would be no less confusing if you said you never got hungry or never felt pain.

    You should try intermittent fasting. When I’ve been doing it (just 1-meal a day) for more than a month, I start to forget what hunger feels like. Eventually becoming low energy is what tips me off that I should eat and I try not to go without eating in a day (any only more two days if for medical reasons)

    Not feeling pain also doesn’t seem that foreign to me. Not because I don’t experience pain, but people seem surprised by the things I don’t think are painful, such as charlie horses (that might just be masochism). I already behave in way such as assuming my body won’t send pain signals even if I do something like break or sprain my wrist.

    In general, I’d say its a lot easier to understand not feeling something (assuming you don’t always feel that thing) because you probably have at least some experience of not experiencing that thing.

    I think Jesus was a myth, but if we are running the thought experiment that Jesus was real and he was pious because he was asexual- that seems a bit like cheating to me. The reason that people have such a hard time following all of Christianities silly sexual rules is because most people do have sexual desires. It’s like being impressed that someone who never feels hunger hasn’t eaten in 30 days or someone who never feels pain walking over hot coals. Technically they did the thing- but it’s not the same.

    Fair. I know I’ve been guilty of confused by people’s behaviors due to a lack of understanding of how differently we experienced things.


  • You’ve never tried it or you just aren’t sure if you liked it?

    Pretty certain I did as a child, but not if even then I considered it a neutral or a negative? Certainly wasn’t something I had a positive opinion of.

    You never know, some things don’t sound like they would be good but then you try them anyway and it turns out to be fantastic. There are very few things I will not at least try once before deciding its not for me. Hell sometimes I’ll try a food I’ve already tried once before and didn’t like it, and occasionally I am pleasantly surprised

    Yeah. I meant “I assume the same for the pie itself” as a sort of self-criticism because I get its not a reasonable assumption.

    Anyways, my main point was more about the original topic. I’m not even sure how I would possibly rate them? What am I even trying to rate them on? People’s attraction to both left me wondering if people were just lying about it (and perhaps sexual attraction more broadly) because it was beyond me comprehension that would could actually care for either.