• Rolando@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Here’s the alternative:

    • Justice of the Peace ceremony: $43 (including license, supply your own witnesses)
    • session at photography studio: $13-$500 (including prints and downloads)
    • BYOB party at your place that evening: $0

    Basically, finding out your partner wants a big wedding is a huge go/no-go moment. Save the money for when you really need it.

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      1 year ago

      As my sister in law said, even for expensive weddings, if you do things properly you’ll end up making profit from the gifts you receive.

      And yes, that’s fucking disgusting.

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        1 year ago

        I mean you’re right, but I believe the converse is what she was getting at. Invite respectable guests and they will know the unwritten rule: bring a gift worth at least as much as your meal, drinks and party favors. It’s not necessarily bad to expect that much.

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          I personally think that yes it’s bad to expect that much. You’re the one who decided to organize a party for a day that’s all about you and your SO, it’s not my problem how much you decided to spend on it. Even for my best friend’s wedding I told him “You charge me something or expect me to give a gift worth X, I’m not going, it’s your decision to do something special that day, you assume it, the day I invite you to a party I won’t charge you or expect a gift.”

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        1 year ago

        Photoshoot’s free. The $13 is for the print you get.

        You mock, but my grandparents only have a couple photos of the day they were married. But they did stick together all their lives, and they did raise their kids as best they could within their means.

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          I didn’t realize you were referencing something from like 50-60 years ago. All in all, you make valid points… I have lived long enough to personally validate them. It was just the “thirteen to five hundred dollars” range that made me chuckle!

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      My mama’s got a tiny little diamond in her engagement ring. Dad offered to get her a bigger one, but she said no, let’s save that money for something more important. I believe that money got put toward a renovation of the house.

      Give me a girl like mama, whose got a tiny diamond and a solid home.