Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can’t afford to move.
Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk “legally” takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.
In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don’t mind stopping a few cars.
Working “full time”. I love what I actually do at work (generally) but like… doing it 9-6 five days a week is so fucking draining. It feels like working defined hours for the sake of working in those hours. Obviously for most jobs the hours spent working do matter, but for software development it may actually be counterproductive as being tired fucks up your productivity hard
Nothing. As in procrastinate by doing basically nothing.
I’m feeling that!! I’m on summer break and i have so many things i need to do - even just simple paperwork that would yield $$ - but i can’t get motivated.
Someone not too long ago asked me how I motivate myself, and I was quite puzzled by the question, like “what do you mean motivate myself? That’s not how motivation works?”, because to me motivation has always come from external sources, like people, situations, experiences etc. But no, apparently some (many? most?) people can somehow motivate themselves. I’d like to have that power please.
intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
You never do things for yourself? No hobbies or anything that are basically “pointless” aside from your own personal satisfaction? Never done something to challenge or better yourself with no reward from someone or something else?
yeah but those wont pay the bills
Doesn’t matter, if you do things for yourself that’s intrinsic motivation. Doing it for money, because it pays the bills, or some other reason outside yourself would be an extrinsic motivation.
Of course, I do things because they’re fun to do. But those things don’t require any effort. When people talk about motivating yourself it’s usually about using the motivation as a tool to do things that take a lot of effort.
This isn’t a personal habit but flying. If I could never ever in my life ever have to go through a stupid security theater checkpoint at an airport and then board a plane and sit like a sardine for hours on end…
Too bad I live in public transit shithole USA
I live in the US too, but thanks to my patented secret* I rarely fly at all!
*Being poor
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I believe you that if you’re paying 2x a traditional ticket price you get a better experience, but I would really just prefer high speed rail lines that can service many people at once, not a boutique experience catered to the wealthy.
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right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.
Worrying. Anxiety sucks…
Fucking eating just too much that I can’t meet my weight loss goals.
I’m not overweight by any means, but if I don’t fix my diet, all the exercise I do isn’t worth nearly as much.
Not encouraging you or anyone to take Ozempic but the fact that they work so well for weight loss proves that there is a biological pathway that reinforces overeating. It’s beyond the dopamine feedback loop - there is an actual biochemical reason that we are compelled to overeat. It validates the idea that being successful at weight management isn’t decided by willpower alone. Some people are just more biochemically predisposed to overeat.
These new GLP-1 receptor agonists have shown promise mitigating many compulsive behaviors from overeating to alcoholism to behavioral compulsions. It’s a new area of pharmacology and I’m super excited to watch them discover novel treatments for all manners of issues.
Exercise isn’t worth nearly as much as eating habits anyway.
A false narrative of exercise being like weight loss currency has been promoted for way too long.
When losing weight, it’s “kilos in the kitchen, grams in the gym”. You can lose weight with no exercise just with a caloric deficit.
Read “the hackers diet” or “the 4 hour body” for more info.
No, but it can help you stay on track. If you’re restricting calories, it gives you a little wiggle room.
Running is surprisingly fun once you get in shape enough to enjoy it – and has an effect on what i eat bc planning to go running later in the day has a pretty big effect on how mindfully i consume. I can’t have a huge meal or chug water last minute and feel good while running.
I have the opposite problem. I don’t eat enough. On several occasions, I have gone upto 3 days without eating. Closer friends are often worried about my nutrition. It’s gotten so bad, that my last 3 girlfriends have made it a topic in the relationship, while I have friends that let me come over for dinner literally any day I want. They then makes sure I eat enough.
To me, eating can be such a chore. It’s like eating is something I have to do just like showering. I can find it rewarding on some occasions, but unlike showering when I feel brand new afterwards, once I eat, I get dumb, slow, bloated, and feel heavy. If I haven’t eaten throughout the day, I feel light, energetic, focused, and free.
Anyway, I find it interesting to be on the other end of unhealthy eating continuum. What about eating makes it hard to stop?
Mmm food is delicious. I just ate a whole wheat sourdough pastry from a local bakery – it was a bialy with caramelized onions. A very perfect summer Saturday snack.
Not a doctor but if you have some will try switching some meals to Soylent or another meal replacement drink. For the past ~7 years my breakfast and usually lunch has been Soylent, and I have a nice big real food meal for dinner.
It’s really easy to track calories with meal replacement drinks and at least for me it’s way healthier than what I was eating previously.
Yeah, chocolate Kachava was a big help for me when I was restricting calories. It’s a healthy high protien meal that’s more convenient than fast food. I added a banana and oat milk, and blended it with crushed ice for a nice smoothie.
Exercise is good for you even you don’t lose weight
Adhd meds helped with this, had a dopamine addiction that meant going ham on a lot of thing outside of food as well.
Vaping nicotine. I know I can stop but it’s just a very difficult challenge for me. Still better than smoking cigs but I really need to let this vice go.
When I quit smoking I holed myself up in a dark room with provisions to last a week. It was hell but it worked.
Check out Allan Carr Easy Way. It really really really works
That’s the plan! I read it originally to quit cigs but ended up picking up the vapes.
Nicotine is 7 times more addictive than heroin. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to stop.
Hyper bitchass comment
The statements are both true. Also, the best way to get someone to accomplish something is to tell them it can’t be done.
Maybe if it’s like doing the washing or sweeping the floor or something. For addicts it’s just confirmation that they shouldn’t try.
Maybe they shouldn’t.
I made it a month once. It’s really seated as more of a psychological addiction for me. I am going to try reading Allen Carr’s “The Easy Way” for quitting vaping to see if I can start the brainwashing process of not “needing” this fix.
Ageing
Aging is a good sign tho. The only people that don’t age are dead.
Only one way to stop and i don’t recommend it.
Being angry at the world.
That’s a tough one. Sorry for whatever strated you down that path It can be mentally exhausting and isolating. I hope you figure a way out of it.
Thinking, I wish my brain would just stop.
Worrying what other people think of me.
I know I shouldn’t care, but it’s hard not to.Working.
Chewing nicotine gum.
Havent had a smoke in years but trying to give the gum up means I turn into a raging asshole.
This is me but with the nicotine mints! I slowly started mixing in other “regular” mints, but it doesn’t have the same kick! So after an extended period of time I get grumpy and just go back to the nicotine mints…
Maybe talk to your doctor about bupropion (wellbutrin/zyban). It’s a unique antidepressant medication that work by inhibiting reuptake of norepinephrine and dopamine (other reuptake inhibitors focus mostly on serotonin or norepinephrine). When testing it, they found that many people stopped smoking, so it’s now prescribed for people that want to stop using nicotine. You likey wouldn’t be on it for long, just a few months until you get the cravings to stop and readjust your life to no nicotine.
No way, Ive been on the antidepressant merry-go-round before. They were not a pleasant experience for me.
When I used nicotine gum what I did was a started switching between the nicotine gum and regular gum. I eventually ran out of nicotine gum and just chewed regular gum for a while. I think the dependency and money is what pissed me off enough to stop, anger is always good motivation.
Same.
The fact that electronic interfaces keep getting worse and more complicated. It’s basically a race to the bottom at this point. I truly feel for the older generations. I don’t just mean the current older generation, I mean all older generations. As a person gets older, they have a harder time understanding change. And yet the world is basically removing the ability to do things without electronics. When the current group that is 20 years old, when you guys get to be 80, the interfaces will have changed so much, you basically will be screwed.
I had to go to urgent care the other day and the only way to check in was to scan a QR code and fill out a god awful, half broken form on a random third party website. There were no error messages. The site would timeout if you spent too long on one page, so you’d have to start over. The amount of people who had all sorts of issues is nuts.
This was “an upgrade”
Now imagine if you are 85. I do not understand why companies make change for the sake of change.
Watched my gramma slip into “i can’t change the channel on the tv with a remote that only has 2 buttons” from can you fix the vcr (press the tv/video button) again
