Remember boys and girls, we born different, we build different. We have a lot in common, but than there are your relatives, friends, teachers, city where you were born etc. You can compare two things only if you have all other variables are equal, which is impossible. Doing your best is different everyday as well as every month and every year. Achievements of others shouldn’t bother you, only your life goals should.
I was gonna say something like this but you already said it, so imma add to yours
Everyone is talented in some way-- you might not be able to sing, or do acrobatics, or drive a racecar, but you can do other things. Everybody can do something, yes your somethings might be different but that’s normal and perfectly fine. Things like talent and beauty are purely subjective, and even if you think you have neither of them that’s just your opinion.
I do agree with this as well, but wanted to add a little something that might give a different perspective. Let’s say you are extremely gifted at being a computer engineer and you don’t know it. Nowadays probably you start fiddling with computers and eventually find out. Let’s say that you are gifted for this, but instead being born nowadays, you were born in the 1800. There is no way to know you were a gifted computer engineer back then because, well, computers didn’t really exist. The inverse also applies as well. If you are extremely good at lightning up street lamps, nowadays that skill is not relevant, since no one needs to light up street lamps manually anymore.
I do think these skills have usually some sort of equivalent (even tangentially) and you find out what you can be good at. Is it your optimal skill? I do not think we can effectively know, since everything is not available from both present, past and future, all at once to be exposed to.
That does make sense, but I don’t quite agree. To continue with your gifted-computer-engineer-from-the-1800s example, they aren’t just good at computers-- they have the underlying skills (problem solving, attention to detail, able to apply abstract concepts to concrete objects, taking account of the whole system, good at maths, etc) and if they were born now, they also have an interest in computers. But if they were in the 1800s they would still have all those things (except for the interest in computers) and they’d be able to apply them to be good at other things
Built different (incorrectly)
thx, I am stupid (:
As an enby, I’m going to choose petty spite and forget that we’re born different
Don’t worry, someday you’ll be like me; you’ll be finding out someone taneted is much younger than you.
The really fun part is that the first few times this happens to you, you’re the same age and feel insecure that someone your age achieved more, but as you age in to your mediocrity you gradually get to see people who are younger and younger than you achieve more than you ever did, and now, likely ever will. But hey, there’s always the memes to take your mind off it… oh wait.
This doesn’t bother me. They’re usually the type who put the work in to get where they are so they deserve it.
If it was a talentless incompetent hack who cheated their way through life and reaping the benefits they don’t deserve, now that bothers me.
Then let the thought comfort you that talentless sacks of shit are running NPC streams on tiktok and making more money than you.
Life is a marathon not a sprint. We don’t all have the same problems and we don’t all have the same tools at same time to deal with them and that’s ok. The value of you is so much more than just the accolades you receive or the money you earn. The meaning to your life is whatever you decide that meaning is not whatever is forced upon you. Remember to be kind to yourself. All anyone can do is try and be a lil better than the day before.
Try to find out where or what you really shine at, and keep going through that way!
and meanwhile stop comparing yourself to others
What do you do when you don’t shine at anything?
To shine at something you have to put effort into it. Usually it’s the lack of willpower that makes us average. Look at exceptional people, they succeed in very different areas.
I remember when Billie Eilish got big with her album at age 17 and I felt so crappy still making bat shit music at 18
Our environment has a lot to do with it too, like what we’re born into. Billie Eilish’s parents were both actors with a very limited amount of success. She’s not a nepo-baby by any definition of the word but she had parents who supported her passion and a have few connections. I don’t know what your situation growing up was like but I can take a guess and say that your parents said to you what my parents said to me when I said I wanted to be a rockstar. “You can certainly try, but most people who do don’t get very far.” They were right of course. You can cut yourself a little slack, life is hard.
Thanks for your kind words, but I have grown in the last few years ;) Today I would never ever want to get famous fast. I think it’s very tough to find any meaning and contentment for people that got famous “over night”
It also hurts when they’re younger, and have been doing it for less time than you. I’m a purple belt in BJJ, and have trained with people competing at a high-level that were basically small children when I started, and have done it for half the time I’ve been in the sport.
Pair that with working with several accomplished engineers at work that outlevel me, despite me graduating before they even went to university, and sometimes it’s easy to feel a bit shit.
I will never understand comparing one’s self to others. You’re like comparing Xbox to PlayStation. I remember my mother comparing my siblings and I to our cousins who were hustling at a young age (looking back now as an adult, it wasn’t a good thing considering their circumstances at the time). I retorted by saying they’re different people, why should I care? Then thankfully my dad backed me up from my mom’s nonsense!
Opposite for me. Parents always put me down and compared me to others. When I told my mum I wanted to be a plumber because they make a lot of money, she made me clean the toilets in the house for 2 years.
But that desire to gain your parents’ approval is strong. I was a dumb kid with bad grades, and while I got into university, it wasn’t a top tier one. Worked my butt off everyday, in part because I never got that praisal. Slow and steady, but I finally made it to a good job.
(Granted, plumbers still make a lot and my parents were kind of dicks for not realizing that, but my ambitions grew greater than that dream)
Haha suckers doing more shit while i’m just chillin is this supposed to make me jealous lol ?
There’s a time, when you will go to the hospital and the doctor will be younger than you. You will feel useless.
First I just draw this head, then erase some of the details… there! A circle!
Comparison, the killer of all joy
I remember I’d been playing guitar for about five years or something and thought I was getting pretty good when I met this kid who was 16 (the same age I started) who’d been playing for six months and was so much better at it than I was, it was scary. That was 23 years ago, and I might be as good as he was now. I’d like to say it never bothered me, but I still remember it.
