It’s important to remember that you don’t owe it to anyone to engage in a comment fight. If someone decides to be grouchy and try to pull you into an argument, you can just ignore it and move on with your day.

I post a lot of memes across Lemmy, and you’d be surprised (or maybe not) how often someone goes out of their way to be upset and attempt to bait me or others into arguing with them. I think some people just enjoy being mad, but I’m not one of them, so I’ve decided that it’s not worth the mental energy to engage with that.

Talking to people is why I’m here so I am the exact opposite

Only when there are suddenly a lot of unread messages.

What did I say?

Learning to walk away and not waste your time engaging with people that fundamentally make your life worse is a valuable skill.

You are not obligated to engage with everyone that tries to goad you into a pointless argument.

sees 1 new notification oh cool someone responded to something let’s see what it is

5 notifications hmm. Well something I commented on must have hit the front page / trending

22 notifications oh god what community decided to take issue with me now… (after blocking a few instances, the amount of gif and emoji spam on my inbox has drastically reduced)

At first I didn’t like the fact that my Lemmy client didn’t support notifications, but it turned out to be the greatest thing about it. It basically helped me cut down on social media time.

Used to. I realized that the worst that happens is that you pissed off some dickhead who writes bad words to you. You don’t get hurt or die or anything. It’s just some words.

Yes. Mostly people on Lemmy are positive, but every so often some nutsack turns up.

I had this when I was younger, too. Today, I don’t mind if someone posts or messages me nasty stuff, I either ignore it completely or just block this person and move on. There is no use getting frightened because of some internet stranger who decided that today is the day to type random bullshit to someone he doesn’t even know.

I have this with checking emails at work. I hate when I have a new email and don’t know what it’s about to say.

Yes. When I’ve just been shitposting, I look forward to responses. If I’ve made a few serious comments, I dread that I’ve angered the hivemind.

I know that it makes no sense. But I’ve been honest, and there’s some part of me that’s afraid of negative feedback.

I used to. Don’t give a flying shit anymore. Sometimes people agree with me, sometimes they disagree. Fuck it, whatever.

What’s in your anonymous inbox can’t hurt you irl. If they’re right, or make an argument that convinces you, you can always say so. If they’re personally hurtful you can block them. Meanwhile reflect that their nasty comments say more to the rest of us about them than you.

Imagine being able to walk into a bar and block anyone obnoxious from interacting with you, wouldn’t that be peaceful…

Edit to add: you’re probably going to get more posted comments from people who don’t experience inbox fright than from those who do. So keep in mind there’s a circle of silent friends supporting you!

I belive in standing on your square. I post something because I belive in it, and at the end of the day it’s just text on a screen. Like other ppl posted you aren’t obligated to response.

Not me.