I do this, but it’s a serious condition called delayed hearing, which you can’t read about anywhere, because I made it up.
It’s actually a common thing with adhd
I keep coming across relatable posts followed by someone saying it’s ADHD and it’s making me paranoid whether it’s just good ol internet spreading fake news or memes or if I actually have ADHD. I don’t think I have ADHD but I have to question myself every time this happens.
It’s all a spectrum. Our minds, in some ways, are brute forcing ways to approach survival. Each individual’s brain settles on some patterns that they determine work for them, and when you look at the collective, we can end up with very different ways of thinking but they are all based on balancing the number of neurons devoted to various tasks like visual processing, audio processing, social skills, various physical skills, etc. ADHD is based on how attention is tuned, both how long you can pay attention to something you might not want to and also how your attention is divided between tasks you’re focusing on vs other things going on around you.
Personally, I don’t really give that much attention to things going on around me. I’m usually either actively doing something or lost in my thoughts. This has the advantage of being able to think through things, but at the cost of missing things around me, which can include someone addressing me. It’s pretty much an always on thing. I do hear it and my brain can often process it after I realize I’ve been addressed. But I’d guess that most people are like that when they are actively concentrating their full attention on a task. Or thinking, I’m sure non-ADHD people do that, too, but the balance between time spent focusing on thoughts vs processing general surroundings might be different.
Though tbh I have no real idea. My entire experience is inside my own head and I can only guess at how different things are from brain to brain (and to what level other organs contribute to that, since they’ve all got neurons, and chemistry that they all play a role in can have huge effects, too).
Think of it this way. Many ‘normal’ people can exhibit different symptoms that get associated with ADHD. With people who are diagnosed with ADHD, they must pass a certain threshold number of these symptoms and severity.
IIRC, it’s a similar approach to ASD
Of course it fucking is
This mental checklist of things that point to me having adhd is growing uncomfortably large. Is there anything that can point to someone not having adhd?
In my experience my adhd makes normal people things harder, like yes sometimes everyone needs a minute to process information, sometimes everyone forgets why they walked into a room, sometimes you’ll get way too excited on a subject and so on
But you know everyone also pees but when you pee 60 times a day you usually see a doctor
makes normal people things harder
I’m like this… Stuff most people find easy is especially hard for me. But on the flip side, stuff that’s really hard for most people is easy for me.
A Delayed Hearing Diagnosis?
Or APD
I hate you.
The actual name is auditory processing disorder, and I do actually have that, as it’s often comorbid with ADHD. But your version is funnier and made me laugh.
But enough of us have experienced it that it must be a real thing.
Fuck you I’m buffering.
Actually me. I do this all the time and it drives my friends, family, and girlfriend nuts.
I think my brain processes what is said after it is finished processing what I am currently thinking about and what I am really doing is multitasking in thoughts before rounding my way to the next one.
Sometimes you figure out what was said after saying “huh”.
It’s like how I catch all my mistakes only after sending my email.
I push undo timer to the max on every app possible
This is why I always end up re-reading work emails over and over again before sending, and also use the outlook delay-sending to allow for “unsending” lol
Huh?
When the ear-to-brain ping is 900ms
Or it’s those of us who have slower auditory processing and we need that brief moment to process the question
Then say “uhhhh” like everyone else!
Processor too slow. Can save 1 default reaction only.
Upgrade to pro and respond ‘uhhh’ in 200ms
yea but during that time you fully believe you didn’t hear the thing being said
I have ADHD, I huh literally everything if I’m not paying attention to you.
I say it at a way of signaling that next time they should establish a connection before just dumping the body of their message onto the line.
Same. Then I answer before you can repeat.
Psychopath…
I dont think this guy, gal, or nonbinary pal knows what psychopath means
So, one way my ADHD manifests is that my brain will just fucking fumble incoming sounds, particularly if I’m not paying attention beforehand. I’ve been near someone who just turned on the radio to the middle of a song and the music made no sense to me at all, like, it was just really weird noise that sounded like it should make sense but didn’t, until it suddenly clicked and the music made sense again. With words, it happens all the time. Someone will just ambush me with words and instead of “hey, can you put the cap on the blender?” It becomes “hey, can you pole a cat fender?” Or sometimes it becomes just “dsfargeg”. I know that nobody would say either of those things to me, so I use a dual track strategy of both playing with what I think I heard to try and make it make sense as well as asking the other person to repeat themselves. Sometimes, I work it out before they repeat it, sometimes I don’t.
I’ve never misheard things with ADHD but I do regularly ask people to repeat things and it’s not that I haven’t heard but it’s like my brain hasn’t fully processed and understood what I’ve just heard. So when someone starts saying what they’ve just said, my brain has finished processing everything.
Exactly. It’s like my (sub)concious was already at least three threads removed from reality and I need to bounce back into the real world to process.
I don’t have ADHD but I experience this too. Audio processing disorder.
Sometimes I realise what’s been said after a second or so, other times I can’t figure it out. My go to solution is to just repeat what I’ve heard. It usually gets kind of funny so it takes the annoyance out of it.
I’ve done this all my life - I don’t have ADHD.
It isn’t necessarily the case that everyone who does this has ADHD, nor that everyone with ADHD has this as a symptom. You could just have an auditory processing thing. For me, I think it’s related to my ADHD because it doesn’t happen when I’m on medication for it.
My ADHD manifests this way as well and I explain it as, “I’m sorry, I didn’t understand English just then.” I only speak one language but it’s true, I couldn’t parse their language.
I also picked up a “quirky” habit where I’ll say the nonsense phrase back at the person, who gets a laugh, then repeats themselves. Since it seems like I’m being cute and quirky instead of having an auditory processing disorder, people don’t get annoyed as often.
I’ll say the nonsense phrase back at the person
I do this too sometimes. My wife in particular hates it.
I think you’re fine because this sounds totally normal to me
Maybe, but it happens a lot less (that is, not at all) when I’m on my medication.
I wait when people say this. 100% people just need more time to process
Not gonna lie in my case it’s a loading problem cause I hear and my hearing si fine but it comes up jumbled and then after 1 to 3 seconds the brain process what I heard.
I love him but damn that is annoying every episode
Huh?
Sorry, auditory processing disorder
They’re making noise to fill the silence while they process what you said.
Fuck you, Shoresy!
Fuck You, Lemmy! Your lives are so sad I get a charity tax break just for hanging out with you!
Fuck you, Shoresy!
Fuck You, DuckPuppet! Your mom asked me to pull her hair and then hit me up for a hundo when her extensions came out!
huh?
You can’t judge me by just one my reply. But you probably would if you see them all.
