“We can disappear into the world and continue to live in the shadows,” he says. “But ultimately, that’s not how it’s supposed to be.”
Ugh. I really wish people would quit saying this. I don’t want “visibility.” “Trans visibility” feels like an insult. I want to be invisible, and anything less is torment. Some people will never pass as the gender they identify with, but for them to prescribe their feelings on all of us is not fair.
I want for it to not be a big deal. Some of us being visible is how that happens. Passing is great. I shouldn’t have to disclose my medical history to strangers or coworkers or even friends, but I want to be able to chime in when it’s relevant. Sorta like how many people are about their extra nipples.
Lmao that’s a really good analogy. If i had extra nipples, i wouldn’t want “extra nipples day of visibility” but i also wouldn’t want anyone to make a big deal about me taking my shirt off at the beach.
Yeah, though I think the context of day of visibility matters. It’s relatively young, and was created because for a while we only gathered as a community for day of remembrance. The idea was that we should be seen and loved while we’re alive too.
It’s become something more, a showcasing of our presence and a celebration of our existence. It’s mostly just freshly out people being really loudly out in my experience. But I’ve read the names every year since 2014. I’m glad we take a different day to remember that we live.
They aren’t trying to force you specifically to be visible. If you want to continue to live in the shadows, by all means do so.
But by the same token, they shouldn’t be forced to live in the shadows if they don’t want to.
As far as I can tell, it’s just about getting to a point where it’s okay for those who want to, to be able to go out in public and be who they are (and therefore be visible) without getting insulted, or discriminated against or killed for it.
That in no way affects your ability to continue to do things the way you want to.
Ah passing privilege. “Trans visibility” doesn’t mean people being able to clock you it means that people are fighting so that if somebody does clock you, you are still safe and supported.
I desperately wish I could be invisible, but I can’t so I have to go the other direction. If I am invisible I am by default in the closet so “trans visibility” means that I am seen, understood and that people are able to understand so that I get to live too. It isn’t exactly fair to us to disavow the work we do when it ultimately benefits you in the long run just because you essentially “got mine”. You don’t want to fight that’s fine, you have the benefit of not having to … But don’t spit on the people who are.
Oh man. I am just remembering the last time we visited my wife’s family in her home village. Whenever I spoke her family would be startled for a moment with a look “oh the sperm donor breadwinner is also here.”.
It’s funny how it worked out. My brother-in-law decided to finally introduce his trans fiance to his parents after our visit. He felt confident they wouldn’t hate her after spending three weeks playing with their grandkids.
Ugh. I really wish people would quit saying this. I don’t want “visibility.” “Trans visibility” feels like an insult. I want to be invisible, and anything less is torment. Some people will never pass as the gender they identify with, but for them to prescribe their feelings on all of us is not fair.
I want for it to not be a big deal. Some of us being visible is how that happens. Passing is great. I shouldn’t have to disclose my medical history to strangers or coworkers or even friends, but I want to be able to chime in when it’s relevant. Sorta like how many people are about their extra nipples.
Lmao that’s a really good analogy. If i had extra nipples, i wouldn’t want “extra nipples day of visibility” but i also wouldn’t want anyone to make a big deal about me taking my shirt off at the beach.
Yeah, though I think the context of day of visibility matters. It’s relatively young, and was created because for a while we only gathered as a community for day of remembrance. The idea was that we should be seen and loved while we’re alive too.
It’s become something more, a showcasing of our presence and a celebration of our existence. It’s mostly just freshly out people being really loudly out in my experience. But I’ve read the names every year since 2014. I’m glad we take a different day to remember that we live.
They aren’t trying to force you specifically to be visible. If you want to continue to live in the shadows, by all means do so.
But by the same token, they shouldn’t be forced to live in the shadows if they don’t want to.
As far as I can tell, it’s just about getting to a point where it’s okay for those who want to, to be able to go out in public and be who they are (and therefore be visible) without getting insulted, or discriminated against or killed for it.
That in no way affects your ability to continue to do things the way you want to.
Ah passing privilege. “Trans visibility” doesn’t mean people being able to clock you it means that people are fighting so that if somebody does clock you, you are still safe and supported.
I desperately wish I could be invisible, but I can’t so I have to go the other direction. If I am invisible I am by default in the closet so “trans visibility” means that I am seen, understood and that people are able to understand so that I get to live too. It isn’t exactly fair to us to disavow the work we do when it ultimately benefits you in the long run just because you essentially “got mine”. You don’t want to fight that’s fine, you have the benefit of not having to … But don’t spit on the people who are.
if you wanna be invisible then you should have kids, so you could become transparent :P
Oh man. I am just remembering the last time we visited my wife’s family in her home village. Whenever I spoke her family would be startled for a moment with a look “oh the sperm donor breadwinner is also here.”.
It’s funny how it worked out. My brother-in-law decided to finally introduce his trans fiance to his parents after our visit. He felt confident they wouldn’t hate her after spending three weeks playing with their grandkids.
The irony of someone with the most trans username possible writing this is funny
Hi trashgirlfriend, your username is cute, will you marry me so we can have a short, toxic marriage with lots of good sex and domestic violence?
Sorry I already got myself a boywife to emotionally manipulate/have bed breaking sex with