❌ My parents were autists, therefore I was abused.
✅ My parents were narcissistic abusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause ✅✅)
I’m more than happy to say my parents abused me because they had a mental disorder, but they weren’t diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, so I’m stuck using autism instead. I wish they had a more socially acceptable disorder to blame.
❌ My parents were autists, therefore I was abused.
✅ My parents were narcissistic abusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause ✅✅)
So how come you think autism isn’t okay to blame for abuse but narcissism is? And why should I listen to a hypocrite who can’t decide whether disorders cause abuse?
Because autistic traits aren’t abusive traits? If someone is autistic it doesn’t mean they will be abusive. They aren’t mutually exclusive, but they can overlap.
Whereas narcissistic traits are abusive traits, so a narcissist will almost definitely be abusive. But these aren’t mutually inclusive with each other, so someone can be abusive without being a narcissist.
I don’t know your parents or your situation; if you say they were abusive, I believe you. But if you say they were abusive because of their autism, that is just plainly false. You don’t have to blame it on some mental disorder, diagnosed or not. You can just say they were abusive.
I feel your pain with the narcissist parents. My parents were autists, so there was a lot of abuse growing up.
Just an FYI, having autism doesn’t make someone an abuser… it’s just possible for assholes to have autism too.
Are you seriously trying to absolve my parents of responsibility for their abuse? You’re disgusting.
❌ My parents were autists, therefore I was abused.
✅ My parents were narcissistic abusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause ✅✅)
I’m more than happy to say my parents abused me because they had a mental disorder, but they weren’t diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, so I’m stuck using autism instead. I wish they had a more socially acceptable disorder to blame.
Ok.
❌ My parents were autists, therefore I was abused.
✅ My parents were
narcissisticabusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause ✅✅)So how come you think autism isn’t okay to blame for abuse but narcissism is? And why should I listen to a hypocrite who can’t decide whether disorders cause abuse?
Because autistic traits aren’t abusive traits? If someone is autistic it doesn’t mean they will be abusive. They aren’t mutually exclusive, but they can overlap.
Whereas narcissistic traits are abusive traits, so a narcissist will almost definitely be abusive. But these aren’t mutually inclusive with each other, so someone can be abusive without being a narcissist.
I don’t know your parents or your situation; if you say they were abusive, I believe you. But if you say they were abusive because of their autism, that is just plainly false. You don’t have to blame it on some mental disorder, diagnosed or not. You can just say they were abusive.
ASD and NPD both involve a lack of empathy. They’re exactly as abusive as each other.