That sounds a very reactionary way to see Vulcan/Ni’Var on DIS.

Vulcan changed it wasn’t destroyed. And it’s implied that this change was what saved the outward facing outlook of their civilization - the romulan component of population becomes the more pro-federation side of Ni’Var.

There are some interesting things to explore there, since on one hand you have T’rina who acknowledges her emotions and moderates them with logic, and on the other there’s Duvin who is clearly more conservative.

I don’t know if there’s an actual plan on the timeline of these cultural changes or if it’s accidental but there’s already some evidence of this cultural shift in Prodigy and Lower Decks with Maj’el and T’Lin. Even before that there’s Saavik but at least non-canon novels assume she’s half Romulan.