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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • There are plenty of healthy ways to perform masculinity. If all you’ve managed to understand from that discourse is “all masculinity is toxic” then I’m afraid you just haven’t been paying attention. Toxic masculinity is when young men are taught that the only way to be a man is to be strong, outgoing, possessive, stoic, unemotional and tall (among other things). Toxic masculinity is when men that don’t fit those stereotypes are beaten down, verbally, but often physically, because they don’t conform. Because they’re gay, have “effeminate” hobbies, are short, weak, empathetic, dress sharply, you name it. It’s also harmful to women, but more than anything it’s men hurting other men for nonconformance.

    Btw why do we never hear about toxic femininity?

    Because it’s not a deeply structural societal issue? Before I transitioned, I faced the effects of toxic masculinity every single day, dozens if not hundreds of times a day. Meanwhile, yeah, my conformance to femininity has absolutely been questioned post-transition, but nowhere near as much. Women and girls have spent the last two centuries working through the toxic and smothering nature of traditional femininity, as much as the patriarchal nature of society had allowed us too.










  • The varicose veins and skin sagging reminds me a lot of the condition I have, Ehler’s Danlos Syndrome (EDS). I was diagnosed at your age and am 30 now. I need things like to use a cane or a walking frame, and other supports at times. Not saying this is for sure what you have but it might be worth bringing up to your doctor because I spent several years wondering the fluff was going on until I found a good doctor that helped me figure it out.

    Other signs can be:

    • Bruising easily
    • Getting dizzy when you stand up
    • Having stretchy joints, especially elbows, fingers, lower back (touching toes) and knees
    • Stretch marks that seem to get bigger, even without weight gain
    • Scars that get worse over time, or keloid scars