My partner and I got together in April of last year. I was 57 and he was 58. He is the love of my life. That person can come into your life at any time, don’t close the door on that opportunity for love. You ARE still young and have tons of life and love to share. It’s amazing the depth of emotion and connection you can share with the right person, I had no idea that older people had so much going on in their relationships.

People change, and when they change to the point that they are no longer the person you married, and you can’t work out how to stay that makes you both happy, it’s time to move on. No matter the age. There is no age limit on happiness and you only get this one life to experience it. I wish you the best.

I got one of those too, on an account I had only ever used for testing some Automoderator code years ago. Very suspicious.

We were still in brown and yellow and there was no cotton. That uniform was hot and scratchy and reeked of fry oil no matter how often you washed it. The women’s uniform was similar to https://www.worthpoint.com/worthopedia/tb221c-1983-mcdonalds-uniforms-4138233506. They’re calling it burgundy but it was brown. Pure 70s brown. Yuk.

I worked at McDonald’s in high school in 1983. Neither of those happened where I was, I made $3.35/hr and was given a uniform (polyester, bleh!) that I had to return in good condition when I left.

Of course my experience doesn’t mean it never happened, it just wasn’t overall what you described.

They sent me one of these for a sub I was working on before making public. It had never been open. I wrote back and told them that and I don’t know if they even noticed, but they didn’t take it from me.

I subsequently never opened it and left completely except for one sub I still moderate. Assholes.

How does an elephant hide in a cherry tree?

They paint their nails red

How about a whole album? Billie Joe Armstrong: No Fun Mondays He recorded these and released them on several Mondays back in early lockdown. I love the hell out of this album.

I see way too many people in my area cheering this shit on. I’m on the edge of red country tho but it’s still devastating.

Life before death

Heinlein wrote a lot of characters in his novels who were there to make you think, right or wrong or otherwise. I’m not so sure he himself was wrong, but he wasn’t trying to be right. He just wanted us to think.

!whitelistsilver

For Virginia: dashcam can be mounted on the windshield so long as it’s behind the rear view mirror. It can’t block the space between the mirror and the dash. I don’t think police will pull you, they never pulled me for it in the years mine was mounted that way (only a little below the mirror), but state inspector will move it to the side or tell you to move it. My current BlackVue is completely hidden by the mirror so no problem.

I was at work in Crystal City VA, less than a mile from the Pentagon, on 9/11.

I wonder the same thing!

If she’s been like this before she underwent all this, then she was already treating you very badly and recent events only made it worse. I’m not any kind of doctor so I won’t throw around diagnoses, but I recognize these behaviors from other people describing what they’ve experienced from people who were emotionally and physically abusing them. I’ve also experienced some myself from being emotionally abused and neglected.

This sounds like abuse to me. You are being abused and manipulated maliciously and therapy can help you get through this. I was diagnosed with cPTSD, complex post traumatic stress disorder, which is PTSD that happens after long term trauma (especially in childhood, which is mine). Years with an abusive partner could definitely affect you this way.

You deserve a life of happiness. The sooner you get into therapy, the sooner you can get to happiness, or at least away from abuse. You are not going to change her.

I went through menopause just a few years ago. It threw everything into an upheaval. Thank goodness I didn’t have a partner to be like this to, but therapy definitely helped. She is absolutely going through a lot, physically and mentally, and will be for years. I still have hot flash episodes for weeks at a time and it’s always different.

Your feelings are valid. You have every right to them. Just because someone is going through chemical changes in their body doesn’t mean they can abuse you like this. Telling you that you have no right to your feelings is emotional abuse and she has no right to do that to you. You both need help to get through this, whether separate or together, but this is all new and for you to be told to sit down and shut up is just heartbreaking. Everything happening to her is also happening to you because it seems to me that she’s taking it all out on you and yeah, that affects you.

You are not dumb or stupid. You are caring and sympathetic to what she’s going through, and she reacts to this with hostility and arrogance. I can’t imagine anyone is obligated to put up with that from anyone, for any reason. It might change in time, but not if she never acknowledges the validity of your feelings and your right to have them.

I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

This is a great one: https://youtu.be/hLHi3wiSuWc?si=jIksepNQ6Wh-OZHe

Add It Up by the Violent Femmes

Very helpful, thanks. Had the update this morning and there it was. It’s off now.

Awesome! Welcome to post stuff, I haven’t been posting the same things as instagram and facebook because I don’t know that people want that here.

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