graymess [none/use name]

I don’t know about 10x, but I’ve started deleting my comments before finishing them more often than I used to. This mostly comes from me questioning halfway through typing it out if my perspective contributes anything new or if it’s worth the time I would need to fully cover what I want to say. If either answer is no, I’ll delete.

There wouldn’t be much left.

Joined!

I’ve also found that the vegans I know in my personal life are mostly nonjudgmental. Militant veganism feels like a stereotype or an anomaly of online spaces. Get to know some vegans at work/school/mural aid groups/activist orgs and you’ll probably find some friends who don’t need you to be 100% vegan all the time. Personally, I allow myself to slip into a vegetarian diet on my birthday, my partner’s birthday, and our anniversary. I’ve never received criticism for this, but I’d understand if other vegans had a problem with it.

Not being useful to your question at all, but if you find or start a community, I’ll join. I’ve been various stages of vegetarian and vegan over the last 6 years. Never felt like I needed to talk about my specific, contextual exceptions, but I’m guessing it wouldn’t be well accepted among hardline vegans.