I didn’t know my roommates when I first moved in with them. I found a listing for “roommate wanted” and “student housing” in an area not too far away from the university, far enough that transportation would be needed to get there (meaning much cheaper rent), but still considered to be in the greater general area. I wasn’t a student, but that didn’t matter. And the friends I made when I moved in became my lifeline.

I was in a similar sounding situation to what you’ve described, and I promise you, it will get easier. I doubt things will ever be actually easy, but think about how boring life would be if we didn’t have to struggle a little and get creative, hey? It helps to break down these larger problems into smaller pieces, if possible. They’re more manageable that way.

A tub shroom is worth a 100 drain weasels

Sounds to me like you could use a good therapist. I know you said you’ve already tried that, but you can try a different therapist if the one you have isn’t working. A good therapist will be able to help you to successfully break away from toxic people (including toxic family members), and also help you to stabilize in your new toxic-person-free life.

Medication can help with the depression, speak to your doctor about what options are available to you.

As for becoming more independent, you need employment that pays enough to cover your bills. If this is not available to you, then think about what you can do to lower your cost of living? Can you move in with a friend? Or get a roommate?

When I first moved out, I rented a house with some people I didn’t know, and ended up becoming lifelong friends with two of them. Renting a room in a house was a better option for me as it was cheaper to do this than to rent an apartment on my own, I got access to more living space (and a backyard-and going outside does wonders for mental health), and because I had roommates who were already set up in the house, the only “stuff” I needed to provide for myself was my own bedroom furniture. It worked really well as an in between step in my own path to independence. Maybe this is also an option for you.

Probably a unique blend of drugged-up-billionaire-meets-autism. But yeah, the dude is definitely odd

So true. English is a bastard language, a bully in a trench coat stealing words from all the other languages. That’s what makes it so confusing to learn/read/use but also fun to use

Most of us who are native English speakers haven’t mastered it either, so you’re not alone

….Do you not have access to gloves?

I wonder if people who are in the US illegally are crossing the Canadian border so they can travel internationally. Considering the extreme restrictions put in place by the US and zero path to citizenship, seems to me that if I were in that position and I wanted to visit home for example, the only way I could do that would be to fly in and out of Canada.

I’m so sorry for your loss. And you’re right on both counts, there is no dignity in suffering, but I’m glad he was able to make his choice too.

Money. It’s always money.

From the article:

Achtemeier charged as much at $4,500 per truck for work that often took him two hours or less. Achtemeier advertised his services on social media nationwide, doing business as Voided Warranty Tuning (VWT) or Optimized Ag. Between 2019 and 2022 his company took in more than $4.3 million in gross profits.

We can’t choose our blood, but we can choose our family. I’m sorry yours is being shitty to you.

If this is newish behavior, then you may want to consider distancing yourself from them, give them time to come to their senses.

If this is just more of the same-old, same-old from them, then it might be time to consider making your own family. By that I mean being selective about who you keep and who you cull.

You are not required to keep in contact with horrible people, just because you happen to be related. There are plenty of other people out there who are worthy of your time and respect.

Big difference between letting in someone with a DUI and someone who is a convicted rapist

Found an article talking about this that’s not locked behind a paywall

There’s a link in the article to the list of books each school has banned, and some of those titles are just maddening.

Paywall

Off topic, just curious why you choose to use the characters you do? You clearly are fluent in English, so it seems unlikely that it’s an “oops” from a different keyboard, which means it’s a choice you made. Do you not find that using those characters makes it difficult to read?

Yeah, but banning abortion isn’t actually about preventing abortion though, any more than it’s about “saving babies”

Hahaha my niece is younger than that and speaks like a sailor, there are more important things in life than to patrol colorful language of children used within the context of trolling scammers

Good for them! Hope they get what they’re asking for

He’ll eat your pets _and fuck your couch! Nothing is safe!!