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  • Child sexual abuse has the same elements of rape, in fact some people who have raped children choose the victim not because of sexual attraction, but because the child was an ideal victim. Rape isn’t sex. Child sexual abuse may be about sexual attraction to a degree, but people who go that route aren’t doing so out of horny feelings. Abusers can spend years gaining access to victims, confusing rape and abuse with normal sexual desire is a common mistake, and a big part of excusing rape. Abusers and potential abusers don’t stop because they can act out their desire alone or view related images, but it’s shown repeatedly that therapy is effective.


  • The danger is in sexualizing children, it’s not a normally occurring part of human sexuality, and if people can sexualize children easily that can lead to sexual abuse of actual children, and that’s always harmful, seems like a 2=2 type of thing to say, but it is. Anyway, modern psychology shows that therapy for people who do sexualize children, who haven’t actually abused any children in any way, are unlikely to ever abuse children, so the doll or child sex abuse images, or other ‘outlets’ of sexual behavior aren’t shown to reduce the likelihood of sexual abuse, but therapy does. They don’t need sex dolls, they need therapy. And then maybe a healthy sex life with an adult.



  • We’ve had worse depressions already. In 08 entire neighborhoods in Reno were totally abandoned, the whole economy seemed to be house construction and repair. At night whole neighborhoods would vanish, not a single light turning on. I knew guys in construction that suddenly couldn’t get work and went around in crews and stripped foreclosed houses of materials to resell or use on lowball job bids, I knew a pretty well off contractor with an adult disabled son who turned to pushing pyramid schemes to try and stay alive basically. I ended up living in an abandoned house for months looking for work. Between the dot Com crash and the housing market bubble my family went from poor to middle class to hoping to survive winter. I remember my dad telling me in an interview they asked him why he changed careers twice and him just laughing like ‘‘you haven’t been in town long then’’ boom and bust. That’s been the nature of things. I still have health problems from getting pneumonia that year when I was basically homeless, I had a friend drag me to a clinic to get penicillin, the doctor had me wait around a few hours so he could have multiple med students come examine me, he had never seen anyone with that advanced of a case in his whole career. And I’m lucky, I know multiple people in their 20s like me at the time that died that winter because they refused to go to the hospital. They knew they couldn’t pay and didn’t want collections. I ended up getting a medical debt bankruptcy a few years later. You live through this and on the news they say things like ‘‘economic recession’’ and ‘‘down turn’’ maybe ‘‘soft raise in unemployment’’ like they guys who used to sign my paychecks were calling me asking if I heard about any work, standing next to me in the clinic line with sunken eyes.

    I will say, at that time people were very open handed, you never needed to call someone to help you get your car out of the road, people would jump out and push you to the side, even put some gas in your tank to get home, I used to drive around with gas cans and a tow line especially in the snow, I used to have sand bags too, people would bend over backwards in a second when they saw your situation, it was a time of a lot of social closeness. And no one ever asked in you had a damm job. My god. No one ever said that shit. ‘‘Get a job?’’ Someone might shoot you for that.


  • Compliance is calculated with previous years costs in workman’s comp, hiring and training costs, and lawsuit and fine payouts. It’s one of the easiest tasks to break down to dollar amounts. If we paid $8k at every site and one site paid $2k because they didn’t get fined on electrical outlets out of code, then one task in compliance saved $6k I’m not theorising with you. I have seen the excel spreadsheets, this isn’t me assuming they exist, this is quantified. This is specified on paper man. What don’t you get here? Marketing is VERY easy to assign a dollar amount to. We made $100k one quarter with $1k paid in marketing, we made $200k next quarter with $2k paid on marketing. Very easy to determine. You want to wake everyone in the morning meeting up? Tell them you want to pull money out of Advertising and redirect it to payroll. They’ll all spit their coffee out. Social media is also very easy to quantify. You just compare metrics across all quarters and pair them to social media follows, this is a huge metric that a lot of business decisions are made on, this isn’t amorphous just because you’re unaware of how important it is to business. Branding also has hard values assigned, and supporting or changing branding is very much a numbers game. Why else do you have companies willing to buy the name of another company even when they don’t need their production or staff along with it? I don’t think you grasp that every single task someone does for a corporation is matched to a dollar figure amount. Seriously. If I could get labor class people to drop one myth it would be that their labor has next to no value. They know what you’re worth and they know how much they aren’t paying you out of the value you produce.


  • Mopping a floor has a determined metric. I’m not kidding. It’s a metric. Clean bathrooms are worth a determined dollar amount. It’s not simply sales or production, every task has a dollar amount. The amount of time it takes to do the task has a dollar value determined and on paper. Corporations know what every task is worth in dollar amounts. Processing Hazmats? Prevents the fine. Removing trash or pallets? Prevents lawsuits and workplace injury. Level of light reflected from the floor? Has a multiplier effect on sales. Determined. Defined. Training sales people on language choices, massive sales effect. They know how much money every single tasks generates, fines or lawsuits prevented, multiplier effects on average ticket sales, training to say ’ highest consumer rated repair services ’ instead of ‘extended warentee’ these are on paper defined dollar amounts. There is NO JOB in which you are paid to do something of no financial value. There are no unprofitable positions or tasks.



  • No matter how much you insist we live in a merit based society, we do not. Again. This is still true, the most accurate way to determine your income as an adult is your parents zip code when you’re born. That’s not merit. That stagnation. That’s the reality we live in. Don’t agree with me? Talk to the several successful people who will tell you, they got where they are either because their parents had connections, or they got Lucky and after getting lucky they happened to also be skilled. But the luck is still what got them there. It doesn’t matter how good you are. If you aren’t someone’s friend or cousin, it’s not happening 99% of the time.




  • My son got new clothes for school. they were a much needed as he grew out of his last set by a lot. and quickly. there’s multiple sets from his new clothes he didn’t get a chance to wear because he out grew them the next week. 11-13 he’s gonna go from being two feet shorter then me, to at least two inches taller. hes BLASTING through clothes. it’s very difficult to deal with.




  • Snowclone@lemmy.worldtoGreentext@sh.itjust.worksAnon is forever alone
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    I don’t know if you know this. but no one is promoting people to higher positions. at all. it could take decades to go from server to idk, shift manager? and often, it comes with no pay increase and less opportunities for tips. There is no forward progress labor has faced stagnate wages for decades. Also, the single most accurate metric to find out how you’ll be doing in life, is your parents zip code when you were born. so merit isn’t the thing that gets you moving along in life. in all likelihood the guy with the girlfriend, wife, kid, is making the same money his parents were making.