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  • See, it’s perfectly fine to not be able to communicate while wrangling with emotions, as long as there is (positive) attention brought to attention afterwards. Many people struggle with that as that may feel like opening up a closed wound, but this makes communication and understanding the other party much easier.

    What I’m trying to say is: The partner paying attention is a thing that can be taught, if that person is willing to learn.

    I myself am oblivious to most body language and can only go on things people have told me. I suck at relationships.









  • You are being disingenuous again. Because you keep piling up new things and also because:

    You, in particular, are not being called a murderer, because the OP clearly says “men” and not “all men.”.

    If that were the case, why did you find fault at the assumed statement of “women lie about rape”? I didn’t say “all”. If you believed what you just wrote to be true, you wouldn’t have brought this up. The OP was a blanket statement that included me. For nothing other than having a penis. Also, don’t forget that one comment that implied this to me directly.

    You are however contributing to the problem by being dismissive and making a discussion about women’s safety about you

    Yeah, no. Learn how to make a discussion without accusations, like the accusation that was done in the OP, and then you can argue that. I realize you didn’t make the initial accusation, but you are defending it, and are also trying to make it into a “woman experience” which should somehow make it above reproach. That’s low.

    which is why women should be afraid of you since you are clearly self-serving and have no empathy for and understanding of their plight.

    Defending myself being called a murderer is self-serving and makes me without empathy and women should be afraid of me. What?

    Please explain to me how women talking about violence from men affects you personally.

    Oh, depends. If a friend asks for help in a current situation I can lend a helping hand. If a friend experienced something like this I can lend an ear and a shoulder. On the internet I can at least listen. And I do.

    In this case someone was accusing me of being a murderer for having a penis, and you keep telling me that that’s not what’s happening. If you want to be listened to by me you need to tone down the accusations. To zero. Except if I did something, then I will take the blame. But I didn’t, so I won’t.

    I can tell you how exaggerating your claim is harmful toward women, since because of the disproportionate violence and sexual abuse they face from men, they often find themselves having to speak on their experiences, and often aren’t believed thanks to unfounded biases like yours.

    Then don’t exaggerate it. What does that have to do with me? Also, you are cultivating a bias in me right now, not unfounded. It does only include you, in case that makes you feel better.

    The difference is that your claim is grossly exaggerated to appear equal to the OP’s claim, which actually has statistic validity

    It is not, because the OP has none. Even though men murder women more often than women murder women (which is a statistical truth), this isn’t what was stated in the OP. “Men love to commit murder” was the OP. There is no fact stated. Definitely not a statistically backed one.

    The OP’s only mistake is specifying murder, which isn’t the only threat of violence at the hands of men a woman would potentially (and has a good chance of having to) face walking alone at night, but anyone who isn’t 12 should be able to understand the use of hyperbole in a motherfucking shitpost.

    The OP made many mistakes which qualified it as a proper shitpost. I am not condemning that, I just don’t like it, as stated. I am condemning you.

    The intention is clear. it is not safe for women because of violence from men.

    That is the intended feeling, yes. Incredibly bad delivery, a shitpost even, but yeah that’s it. Feel free to feel, I guess.

    Put the statistics into the relevant parts of your comment next time. I won’t build your argument for you.

    This will be my last reply in this particular thread. I guess anyone reading won’t be reading the essays we wrote, and I’m feeling you are arguing in bad faith here. Have a nice day.


  • Your assumption is yours to make, I was being deliberately ambiguous. My point was “men like murdering” sounds like a fact, but isn’t. Just as “women lie” sounds like a fact, but isn’t.

    the difference is your generalization isn’t based in statistical fact.

    The OP isn’t, either. There is no difference. Both are damaging overgeneralizations. Even though more women (because its easier) do lie (again, ambiguous. Can be about how their food tasted) way more often than men do murder, both are damaging overgeneralizations. One more than the other.

    Also:

    it’s statistically common enough

    You are referencing statistics. For the second time. Provide them.

    you are harming women by doing this.

    No, you just feel like that. Me arguing that I don’t want to be called a murderer because of my penis is not a downplay of rape. You did that part all on your own.

    it does not harm men to point out what a significant enough amount of them to be dangerous to women at large are doing.

    That’s a lie. Also, how does that fit in with me harming women by pointing something out? We are talking about the sentence “men like murder”, which is rightfully being under fire. You could say this is a shitpost, but your comment is not.

    you are not personally affected by women saying that men are violent or murderers

    Lie. Here you also try to justify the post as the truth. Just for future reference.

    but women are personally affected by your exaggerated claims of dishonesty

    How? And how am I not affected by you denying my experience?

    violence that they are statistically far more likely to experience.

    Are you talking about rape or murder? If you talk about murder, like the OP, that’s again a lie.