Oh shit, today I learned I’m a guy. Neat!

Helpful outlets don’t just fall in your lap, though. You have to do the work of trying things and see what sticks. You can start with small, achievable distractions if that makes it easier, too. For me, it’s taking a super hot shower and singing along loudly with music blaring. It’s just a short amount of time, but it stops my brain from going down a bad road sometimes when I can tell I’m about to have a rough time.

You are not a passenger in your own life, and you are going to have to start actively making changes if you want things to improve for you. It’s not going to just randomly happen to you.

The worst thing you can do when people are working hard to get a reaction out of you is to give them one. That doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat, but as others have said, there are more constructive ways to react to these kinds of workplace issues. By lashing out you’re only hurting your own credibility in this situation.

You keep repeating the same defenses of the behavior you say you’re trying to stop, though, so I am not quite convinced you want to change these things. It seems more like you want to change how people react to your behavior. If I am wrong, then I apologize and sincerely suggest dialectical behavioral therapy. It teaches you how to manage intense emotions in the moment.

Part of that is dragging idiots who fell for the propaganda and didn’t vote, so they do better next time. It’s a multi-faceted issue.

Be the change you want to see in the world! I believe in you!

I think the fact that they were sitting presidents is what gave them the most legitimacy. Fighting against racism usually means engaging in various ways with racists, so I simply disagree.

Giving those you’re fighting against an opportunity to publicly embarrass themselves can have many advantages. It also paints you as a group who is open to a good faith discussion about topics you know you disagree with these people on, which helps to gain more general public support for your causes.

When you’re done savoring the smell of your own farts, think about what you said. You went from claiming many people care more about the dog than they do the human murder victims, then you jumped to saying people didn’t care about the humans at all. These are very different things.

Different people have different values, and these values are shaped by a variety of circumstances. I may not agree with these values or the reasoning behind them, but there are plenty of factors I can think of why some people who aren’t sociopaths may have a reaction like this to stories like these.

In the end, it matters to me more that people care in this situation than why they care. Holier than thou purity testing only divides us further, so trying to understand where people are coming from before you generalize and write them off is a much better strategy if we want more allies to help in this mess. We’re going to need all we can get.

My oldest cat will bring up socks, underwear, and even tank tops from the laundry area downstairs. She lets out such mournful cries while she’s doing it. Most mornings we have to collect her harvest and take everything back downstairs, restarting the process.

If food is viewed and enjoyed as an experience rather than a necessity as a culture, I think it leads to huge shifts in so many aspects of daily living.

It’s not a comparison. RFK Jr. is both.

Lonely isn’t the right word, because I’m not upset about not having a large group of people I consider myself close to. It’s somewhat disappointing that I can’t deeply relate to more people, though. I’d like to meet more likeminded folks, but I’m also less and less willing to tolerate draining relationships as I get older. Being particular about where you invest your time and energy tends to be socially limiting.

Thank you for this comment! I have a cat with FLUTD, and this condition can become fatal quickly if not addressed.

I’d also like to add that declawing can lead to litter box avoidance, and as a consequence, inappropriate elimination in cats. Declawing doesn’t just take the nail, but it also either removes or damages he first “knuckle” bone in cats’ paws. This can result in nerve damage, which makes cats’ natural digging in substrate painful. This is one of many reasons to not declaw your cat. There is no justification for this awful surgery.

I love the juxtaposition of sugar free Coke with sugar added Jack Daniels. Dodging and weaving against diabetes.

Let’s not leave El Diablo out, or Little Baby Pudding Snatcher.

I haven’t had this experience, thankfully. I usually have the opposite problem where I need assistance, and I look around helplessly as I wait for someone to notice me.

You can pull the self checkout option out of my rigid, dead, introverted hands.

Cats, very much so, for most of my life. I’ve enjoyed dogs, but cats have been my heart. While I was working at a shelter one of the dogs that arrived to us from a southern transport was a quiet, shy, but very sweet German Shepherd. It was love at first sight, and she never hit the adoption floor.

We were nervous to bring her home, because we didn’t know how she would react to the cats. It was seamless, and now she enjoys fussing over foster kittens when I have them. She’s opened my heart to dogs in a way I didn’t think was possible. We’re thankful for Ferda every day.

I do still categorize myself as a cat person, though.

I don’t think that would be the general case with humans under these kinds of circumstances. For most of history, women had many more children on average than we see in most of the world today. It was expected that many wouldn’t live past three years old in much of known, recorded history. I can only imagine in circumstances even more primitive than what we know of, something like this wouldn’t be as unthinkable as you’re describing.

This is important to bring up. If we want to stop being subjected to this kind of fuckery, we need to unite and vote with our dollars. I love making egg-based dishes, but there are other options. The real problem is most people struggle with the idea of making sacrifices to get what they want later. Just don’t buy eggs as an average consumer if they are that unaffordable.

In the United States, we are spoiled for choice when we shop. We’re used to being able to get what we want when we want it, and that’s led to a sense of entitlement. Eat other things, get creative. Look up effective substitutions for eggs in baking.

We don’t have to take this. So don’t.