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  • I do unterstand your feelings, the question implies that you Were involved with someone else than your boyfriend and its not nice to think about that in your situation especially since hormons make us more emotional during pregnancy (at least me).

    As most people stated here already it is however a valid concern of your boyfriends parents. Cheating is very common, more common than I would have thought at 18! Doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

    Anyways I wanted to add a different perspective. The one of your child. If you don’t do the test, but your bf family has a tiny bit of doubt it might be that at some point in your child’s life it might hear about that doubt / just suspect it from behavior. And that can do unbelievable harm to a child. So its better to have that proof and then everyone can be happy about the new family member.



  • I guess you went to the wrong shop then. In pharmacies or shops open at crazy hours this might be true. We usually buy all products for Hygiene and beauty in shops we call “Drogerie”. The most common two chains are Rossmann and DM. There you get sun screen for 3-15€ from various Brands.


  • This and nowadays (at least here in Europe) you find lots of sun screen without titanium dioxide.They all have a label with corals on it (they call it in hawaian agreement?). So its very easy to avoid nanoparticles AND protect skin. Also, its not like a few years ago that you look like a vampire when using sun screen without nanoparticles.




  • The Futurium is a quite cool new Museum. Located close to the Hauptbahnhof (Berlin Main Station). Its for free. Its a Museum about the future with lots of interesting stuff on for example future of medicine, future of transport and so on. It has a positive view on many topics even though it of course adresses also the problems. Just super cool and very interactive.



  • In my experience all the good arguments in governments that change, big companies making money etc are still too abstract to people.

    But i have found one argument that at least made women and older men with daughters think about it. Stalking. With reverse image search and stupid people finder apps and ai that can estimate how you look now based on an old picture and vice versa, stalking got soooo easy. Anyone can just secretely take a picture of a girl they find interesting in public and find her social media profile and see where she usually hangs out etc. (Of course also all other genders get stalked - this is just the most known example).


  • I dont agree with the people saying its impossible. It does take time and efford but its not impossible. I know a couple, together for about 10years at the time where he not only cheated but then even broke up to be with the other woman. It didnt last long. After about 2 years the original couple came back together - it was a slow transition of meeting because of the Child, meeting AS friends etc. It was very hard in the beginning. They did a therapy for couples which helped a lot, but still sometimes she would make a comment on the matter even a few years later. But It got less with time. By now its gone. They are one of the happiest couples i know with more trust in each other than i have Seen in other couples. Because it was an active decision to stay AS a couple. Because they had to speak a lot about their relationship after that event and went on doing so, what many couples stop with time. And the therapy surely hepled with that process. I dont know how Bad your case is. If a therapy is needed and how openly you discuss your feelings. But try to signal your wife how much this event showed you that you want her - of course only if the case. And decide together how you can fix things that lead to this event. Maybe do one date per week Where you take time AS a couple. Or one hour per week to discuss how your relationship is going what you liked what you didnt like in the Past week. Sometimes it will only take 10min and sometimes you’ll need the hour… I think something in that direction could help a lot and just proposing it shows your wife you want to change.


  • I also have a friend who had an older dad. They had a very good relationship. Lots of good memories. The only time this friend mentioned that the age gap was hard, was when their dad died quiet suddenly at the age of 80, when my friend was only 21. An age were you still rely on your parents more than you would like to admit. The friend was sad that his father didn’t met their new partner and didn’t see their career. But apart from that my friend was very happy to actually have a dad.

    Here’s my point. I have a couple of friends that grew up without dads. They didn’t care about their child when the relationship ended. I also have 2 friends whose young parents died when my friends where in their twenties due to diseases.

    So I don’t see why you shouldn’t be happy about your child and have a good life. Sure you might me available to them shorter than other parents but that can happen to younger parents too. Also you might be lucky and get 100 years old. No one knows. With a loving dad your kid will have more than other kids.

    Just try to go with the time a bit or at least not to judge the new times to hard. My mum never was good with computers and smartphones and instead of admiring us “children” (i am adult) for what we can use them for, she’s often complaining about us using them. No matter whether its for learning a language, reading newspaper or playing games. Things like that might occur more often when you have an larger age gap but when you are aware you can fix it easily.







  • Another German here. I love France. And arte is the best TV Programm. :) just that you don’t feel alone.

    My theory: Many germans just had really Bad French teachers and honestly its not very easy to learn the spelling, so since their youth they are a bit mad at France. I personally know 3 people that had to redo a year because of bad french grades. Nothing More behind it usually. I noticed its the same with French people that had to learn German. Some love Germany now , the rest projecs their dislike of learning the language on the whole country. However, at least in my bubble, people that like France are in majority. Even those that don’t speak french love to visit.


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    Leguano is very comfy and super quality, but comes with a high price.

    Groundies are comfy and look really cool - people don’t notice its barefood shoes and the price is reasonable.

    Ballop are the most comfortable shoes I ever had, but for my taste they are not as beautiful as leguanos and groundies. Price is reasonable.