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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • You know that CD collection you posted, where the guy in the bottom right is hanging off the side holding onto a rope?

    Do that, but hold on with your neck.

    Calling me a chatbot is fucked, fuck off. I hate the future. Maybe you’re the fucking bot.

    I mean yeah, I saw the Hank Green video from a couple days ago or something where he was on bluesky and ended up realizing he was talking to a disagree bot, and that’s got this air of awful dead internet dystopia to it. But to be accused of being one, myself? Fuck you.



  • Nobody gets respect when clapping for emphasis.

    Men don’t have a reason to reject traditional gender norms and in fact have reasons not to.

    Some men who don’t reject gender roles kill themselves.

    If they had rejected the criticism as invalid and distanced themselves from those people, it seems the data suggests they’d live longer. In my experience, it works.

    if necessary you leave the people who make your life insufferable.

    Great plan there! Abandon every survival tactic you’ve ever known and if any of the few actual allies in your life bitch about it abandon them too. Wander out into the world disarmed and entirely alone…

    They’re not all your allies, and who you keep contact with and how you do it is up to you. You sound like you deeply fear the world, and instead choose familiar hostility.

    The energy you’re bringing here is “have you tried…not being trans?”

    How the fuck am I bringing that energy? I thought it was pretty clear I was talking about shutting out traditional family if necessary to avoid harassment. I wasn’t specifically thinking about trans people, but they fit under the broader umbrella of misfits living in tradition-town needing a way out that isn’t so final.

    I don’t know if you want to try transitioning or not, I didn’t really get a picture of what you’re about. But no, I personally see no reason to tell people they can’t.

    Look, there are good and bad people out there. But the average experience is less bad than having to endure prolonged adult contact with cruel family. People distance themselves from cruel people for good reason. People do move away when necessary, even if there are risks. For some people life didn’t really start before they kinda got away from their past like that.

    But I just mentioned that as an option to not have to endure it. Often it’s enough to just distance yourself socially from the people who are a problem.


  • Of course they’re shamed as long as people who demand gender role adherence exist. Even if these conservatives were a small minority it would still technically be true that incompletely traditional men would be shamed. Shamed by them.

    It is still true that any man that tries to meet their demands is more likely to commit suicide than s man eho rejects their demands and ignores them.

    I’m sure you’re not wrong in arguing there’s no non-traditional gender role men can fulfill that is clearly defined and understood like the traditional one is. But that’s part of the rejection. You reject the role, you keep living, if necessary you leave the people who make your life insufferable. Or you just stay, while shutting them out or reducing contact. Often that means not being welcoming to cruel family members, and often it means not listening to your mother and father most of the time.