This has a very “facts don’t care about your feelings” kinda vibe to it, which I honestly understand, but seems to ignore the fact that feelings don’t care about your facts. When people hold irrational opinions, that’s by definition not based on objective reality, but likely some sort of personal experience.
Perhaps try asking them where their views come from? Ideally in a non-confrontational way, because they might already be aware of their internal conflicts but too ashamed to admit them. Some people are afraid of water because their parents just threw them in a pool and expected them to figure out how to swim by themselves or something like that. It’s not rational from the perspective of someone who learned how to swim in a healthy and normal way, yet it’s also kinda rational from the perspective of someone who was traumatized in the process.
Of course, that’s not an easy solution because you might have to be willing to do some work in order to help them overcome their trauma (should they be willing to do so), but it probably has a better chance of changing their minds than presenting them with a list of facts has (which is kinda passive-aggressive if you think about it). Of course, they might also say no to your offer, in which case you still have the option to decide where to go from there.
This has a very “facts don’t care about your feelings” kinda vibe to it, which I honestly understand, but seems to ignore the fact that feelings don’t care about your facts. When people hold irrational opinions, that’s by definition not based on objective reality, but likely some sort of personal experience.
Perhaps try asking them where their views come from? Ideally in a non-confrontational way, because they might already be aware of their internal conflicts but too ashamed to admit them. Some people are afraid of water because their parents just threw them in a pool and expected them to figure out how to swim by themselves or something like that. It’s not rational from the perspective of someone who learned how to swim in a healthy and normal way, yet it’s also kinda rational from the perspective of someone who was traumatized in the process.
Of course, that’s not an easy solution because you might have to be willing to do some work in order to help them overcome their trauma (should they be willing to do so), but it probably has a better chance of changing their minds than presenting them with a list of facts has (which is kinda passive-aggressive if you think about it). Of course, they might also say no to your offer, in which case you still have the option to decide where to go from there.